I'm having a difficult time inhabiting a world that once was very rewarding and affirming for me. As though it's been poisoned by the disregard of the person I used to be in an abusive relationship with. To be specific, I have been a musician all my life. Music is something I've practiced from a very young age and developed quite a bit of skill with. My job is (currently---I like to feel that all things are still possible, even at the age of 45) to teach piano and violin privately (mostly to kids), play weekly at a church (sans religion, in my mind), and do a number of freelance gigs involving many types of music-making: fiddling when necessary, jazz comping on the piano when called for, soloistic violin stuff--a mishmash of things I'm called upon to do and that I set out to do myself based on interest, goals, etc. It used to be something I was very excited about, if at times over-stretched and stressed out by it by taking on too many disparate unrelated tasks. This interest was hard-won, after many floundering years in my 20's when I couldn't quite believe in what I was doing, and finally managed to branch out from the very limited musical scope in which I was operating. Having succeeded at doing this, I felt wonderful, as you only can when you've traveled to a new and more desirable place through your own efforts. Throughout the course of this abusive relationship, however, my boyfriend showed himself more and more to have zero appreciation of this, and zero interest in it. "All you're interested in is music. I don't even like music", I would hear. I guess I would rather be someone who can be reached on many levels and through many different avenues, and not be so limited in how I get meaning/enjoyment from life. But that was my way. Shaky enough, I guess, that his what felt like heartless criticism was enough to derail me. Sure, I continue to do what I've done, but with a deadened spirit and the loss of the enthusiasm I once had. Any thoughts on how not to let mean-spirited attitudes rob you of the things that once offered you support?
Thanks for reading.
Thanks for reading.