Hi all, in Pete Walker's book on CPTSD, he describes dysfunctional parents who "react destructively to their child's budding sense of initiative. If this occurs throughout his childhood, the survivor may feel lost and purposeless in his life. He may drift through his whole life rudderless and without a motor. Moreover, even when he manages to identify a goal of his own choosing, he may struggle to follow through with extended and concentrated effort."
I've always had specific concrete goals, and I still do. But there seems to be some missing link between knowing what my goal is and understanding how to get there. It's like other people know what to do in life and how to be a part of the world, and I literally don't know how to chart a path from being alone with a goal and trying to achieve it.
Like Pete Walker says, I feel totally rudderless, totally at sea with no map.
If this is too abstract I can try to clarify, but I'm wondering whether anyone has advice or tips on figuring out how to accomplish things in the world. Do I need a life coach or something?
I've always had specific concrete goals, and I still do. But there seems to be some missing link between knowing what my goal is and understanding how to get there. It's like other people know what to do in life and how to be a part of the world, and I literally don't know how to chart a path from being alone with a goal and trying to achieve it.
Like Pete Walker says, I feel totally rudderless, totally at sea with no map.
If this is too abstract I can try to clarify, but I'm wondering whether anyone has advice or tips on figuring out how to accomplish things in the world. Do I need a life coach or something?