My father SA me in my teens, I no longer have any actual memories, I know it happened, I believe I know the extent of it. I have kept him in my life, slightly at arms length, mostly not dealing with the abuse.
It's now 30 years later.
He brought it up recently, apologised, said it never should have happened. He told me that both he and my mother were interviewed on camera by social services at the time, which I hadn't been aware of. I always thought I hadn't been taken seriously, and that he hadn't had any consequences, but that's apparently not the case. He also offered to talk to me about it, to tell me anything I'd like to know, if I would like to. He was clear that it's entirely up to me whether to have a conversation about it.
It's now 30 years later.
He brought it up recently, apologised, said it never should have happened. He told me that both he and my mother were interviewed on camera by social services at the time, which I hadn't been aware of. I always thought I hadn't been taken seriously, and that he hadn't had any consequences, but that's apparently not the case. He also offered to talk to me about it, to tell me anything I'd like to know, if I would like to. He was clear that it's entirely up to me whether to have a conversation about it.