I don't think I'm a type A (though I know I should probably be the last to diagnose myself.) I don't have to have control of everything around me, I don't have to have the best job, house, car etc. but the things I do value (i.e. being effective in my job, volunteer work, friend and relationships etc) I find I leave no room for error. The small thing that set me off today was that I was tutoring a student (privately for $) and due to the short notice, did not prepare as well as I should have, and made an error in instructing a calculation on one of her homework problems. I caught it (after she went to class), emailed/apologized, and gave the correct info, but as I wait to hear back I find myself getting really worked up. She paid me for services and I failed her. And there goes the critic right?
I know, no one is perfect, we all make mistakes, I should learn to be centered enough that I can accept this and not need a "you're forgiven" email to let it go.
What I find even more disturbing/disappointing about myself though is that, it's not so much the fear of error, but the fear of getting caught making a mistake that scares me. Today I'm bound to be caught (she'll get the homework problem wrong) so I know that's not applicable in this situation, but I thought it something worth including. For example, if she figured out the right answer, I would not admit my error and would not be worried at all, because she would not even know that I screwed up.
It's a trivial example, but that's part of the problem because little things happen all the time. Perhaps I just need to become better at keeping things in perspective?
Any thoughts/feedback/suggested reading (or even knowing I'm not alone/crazy) would be incredibly helpful. As always, I appreciate this forum and just having the space to share these things. Thank you.
I know, no one is perfect, we all make mistakes, I should learn to be centered enough that I can accept this and not need a "you're forgiven" email to let it go.
What I find even more disturbing/disappointing about myself though is that, it's not so much the fear of error, but the fear of getting caught making a mistake that scares me. Today I'm bound to be caught (she'll get the homework problem wrong) so I know that's not applicable in this situation, but I thought it something worth including. For example, if she figured out the right answer, I would not admit my error and would not be worried at all, because she would not even know that I screwed up.
It's a trivial example, but that's part of the problem because little things happen all the time. Perhaps I just need to become better at keeping things in perspective?
Any thoughts/feedback/suggested reading (or even knowing I'm not alone/crazy) would be incredibly helpful. As always, I appreciate this forum and just having the space to share these things. Thank you.