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This is a vent post...There are days when things feel simply hopeless...when I turn the anger back in and on myself. I can be doing very well...and then someone will suggest that what I have experienced is simply too dark to deal with whilst simultaneously telling me that my reactions...usually anger or deep sorrow only serves to aggrandize the person who targeted me. What I hear then...emotionally speaking...is that I ought to pretend that I'm Ok...indeed need to pretend it's ok to protect my family from further trauma. So I do....this, of course, warps the anger back around whilst I stumble about re-evaluating whatever progress, thought, or emotion I am experiencing. The single most frustrating thing I hear is how the abuser must have suffered to get to where they are...pathologically speaking...and I get that...but...I'm angry as well...because I didn't  deserve, cause or create the stalker...and I have to allow myself some anger If I'm going to heal up...I feel like it's a part of taking back my power. Is healing possible with a small amount/ zero validation...and are bouts of anger normal?? What does a timeline for healing look like to folks. I moved and went radio silent a bit less than a year ago.

I'm new in and noted that some users are able to be hidden when online. I'd really like to know how to do that. Secondly I have no idea how to add an avatar...any advice very welcome'd
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