I'm having trouble watching the news this weekend and have resorted to just reading articles instead. My husband was playing a news station and it was an interview between a news anchor and KellyAnne Conway. Her behavior was so much like my parents, especially my mother and she looks a lot like my mother, that it triggered me. Here's why:
The news anchor was asking about the press secretary and she was deflecting. Instead of answering the question she was pointing out the mistakes of a few others and saying they might have to rethink the relationship with the press. She finally gave an answer that seemed like a lie and then acted like a victim, saying she was being laughed at but she was a good person and would put up with it. This behavior is so simular to what my parents, particularly my mother, would do when I tried to talk to them about their behavior.
I would try to talk to them about leaving us alone all the time or the unreasonable expectations, which I'm learning is called Parentilism. I was expected to be a nanny and a maid starting at 8 years old and here I was trying to talk to her about it and she would talk around it. Then she would try to blame me and make herself the victim. This never changed. I've always been addressed as a child and even in my thirties told I was a rebellious child and should be seen and not heard. She says she's made a few mistakes but they are totally forgivable and it's obvious that it's my fault because I've had to see a counselor so I must be deranged.
So after years of being treated in that manner I'm concerned that there is a spokesperson for our new president that is using the same abusive manner of address. Since I was recently hospitalized again and now this I have contacted a local women's resource center to see about therapy again. I have a feeling I'm going to need it.
The news anchor was asking about the press secretary and she was deflecting. Instead of answering the question she was pointing out the mistakes of a few others and saying they might have to rethink the relationship with the press. She finally gave an answer that seemed like a lie and then acted like a victim, saying she was being laughed at but she was a good person and would put up with it. This behavior is so simular to what my parents, particularly my mother, would do when I tried to talk to them about their behavior.
I would try to talk to them about leaving us alone all the time or the unreasonable expectations, which I'm learning is called Parentilism. I was expected to be a nanny and a maid starting at 8 years old and here I was trying to talk to her about it and she would talk around it. Then she would try to blame me and make herself the victim. This never changed. I've always been addressed as a child and even in my thirties told I was a rebellious child and should be seen and not heard. She says she's made a few mistakes but they are totally forgivable and it's obvious that it's my fault because I've had to see a counselor so I must be deranged.
So after years of being treated in that manner I'm concerned that there is a spokesperson for our new president that is using the same abusive manner of address. Since I was recently hospitalized again and now this I have contacted a local women's resource center to see about therapy again. I have a feeling I'm going to need it.