Hi everyone,
I am feeling really scared and confused, so wondered whether anyone else has experienced or read about what I am experiencing. I have felt like the past happened to someone else, at some point I disconnected to the whole of my past not only my childhood.
I am doing a Domestic Violence 10 week group workshop, and last Tuesday week 4, I emotionally connected/realised that it happened to me, I went from intense crying, into shock like it was it was just happening, feeling it, rather than it being something I had sort of known. I must have denied, that I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship as an adult for 15 years. It felt like the start of grief, like when I was told my mum died. Since then I have been experiencing emotional memories often with what the memory is about, with the connection that it happened to me, sometimes to something really random,
Today I realised that I, me had got a degree, that it happened to me, I had got a degree, this was during the 15 year abusive relationship (it is so random but it brings up such intense negative emotions with it even though i realised I had got a degree ) the only way to describe this is like I have had a past but "ME or I as a person" was never there to experience it and I am now experiencing it emotionally realising it happened to me, experience by experience, it makes me cry so much and feel so sad.
This has followed on from last November when I emotionally connected to an attempt on my life, again that it happened to me, I went into depression and grief symptoms after this and isolated and withdraw quite a bit until the New Year when I have started baby steps coming out again. (Hence why I have not been online) and now further emotional realisations, which are painful, scary and making me feel so alone, and isolated and frightened, I am spending a lot of time being with myself and my body is feeling such pain.
I feel that there could be a gift in that I am connecting back to me, someone once said to me "that it was me that was missing" in my life,
Can anyone relate to this?
Blessings to you all
Butterfly66
I am feeling really scared and confused, so wondered whether anyone else has experienced or read about what I am experiencing. I have felt like the past happened to someone else, at some point I disconnected to the whole of my past not only my childhood.
I am doing a Domestic Violence 10 week group workshop, and last Tuesday week 4, I emotionally connected/realised that it happened to me, I went from intense crying, into shock like it was it was just happening, feeling it, rather than it being something I had sort of known. I must have denied, that I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship as an adult for 15 years. It felt like the start of grief, like when I was told my mum died. Since then I have been experiencing emotional memories often with what the memory is about, with the connection that it happened to me, sometimes to something really random,
Today I realised that I, me had got a degree, that it happened to me, I had got a degree, this was during the 15 year abusive relationship (it is so random but it brings up such intense negative emotions with it even though i realised I had got a degree ) the only way to describe this is like I have had a past but "ME or I as a person" was never there to experience it and I am now experiencing it emotionally realising it happened to me, experience by experience, it makes me cry so much and feel so sad.
This has followed on from last November when I emotionally connected to an attempt on my life, again that it happened to me, I went into depression and grief symptoms after this and isolated and withdraw quite a bit until the New Year when I have started baby steps coming out again. (Hence why I have not been online) and now further emotional realisations, which are painful, scary and making me feel so alone, and isolated and frightened, I am spending a lot of time being with myself and my body is feeling such pain.
I feel that there could be a gift in that I am connecting back to me, someone once said to me "that it was me that was missing" in my life,
Can anyone relate to this?
Blessings to you all
Butterfly66