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HI,

I'm working myself up to talking about the hard stuff... in the mean time, has anyone watched Greenleaf? It's centred around sexual abuse; the extent people go to cover it up, the challenges surrounding speaking up, and the staggered healing that follows.

I love it. Watching it feels like it's reached passed the layers of hurt and strengthened something deep inside.

I should also mention it has strong religious themes - which may be an issue for some people. I relate to it. My family was very religious - it was the perfect disguise to hide abuse.

My favourite scene: when Opera (who plays Mavis- the Aunty) confronts Lady Mai (who plays the mother of abused girl) and gives it to her straight "YOU KNEW!". Watching this scene is sooooo satisfying - it's everything I would have liked to say to my own mother in response to her denial. I know she knew. All the signs were there. It was more important to maintain a façade of having a beautiful, well functioning family, than to protect me.

If you've watched the first season, what's your fave scene? http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/Smileys/classic/smiley.gif

hi blues_cruise,
you don't need to feel ashamed of being shy, or withdrawn... there's no rule book that says you HAVE to behave a certain way or else you'll be called out on it or humiliated. That woman had no business commenting. Maybe a way you could stand up for yourself in this situation is to say to your friend that you felt judged when she passed along the comment and you didn't deserve it.

Just a thought. I know that if someone made a comment about one of my friends, I would challenge them on the spot 'why do you ask?', 'you don't need to concern yourself, my friend is a thinker - I love that about her' ...or something to that affect... and I absolutely wouldn't pass it on because I would know how difficult it is for you to be out trying to build confidence.

Hope this helps.

None of this is your fault Luna. Your Nana probably felt guilty for her daughters mental illness and wanted to pass the blame - you were vulnerable and fragile enough to be an easy scapegoat.

It's not fair on you, but abusive people don't care about fairness. Thanks for sharing - you're brave.

Hi all...
My cPTSD results from my childhood mostly. Every kind of abuse - sexual, physical, emotional, spiritual. This week has been especially difficult -it's pushed me to look for extra support. I'm happy to have found Out of the Storm. Looking forward to journeying with you all.