Quote from: Kizzie on May 11, 2016, 09:33:53 PM
Hi Bunny - I don't know if you've seen our sister site Out Of the Fog but it's for people affected by someone with a personality disorder and stalker like behaviour (constant boundary busting) can be a symptom of a PD. OOTF has a toolbox for dealing with this kind of behaviour that may be useful.
Thanks Kizzie. Is there much on dealing with someone who has avoidant personality disorder? That's why this person in my life currently keeps finding ways to violate my boundaries. They get through my boundaries with avoidant abuse mostly (although there are some other forms of abuse involved). But I can't see any way to escape it. The simplest explanation I can think of that won't reveal too much of my life in case they, or someone else we know, ever reads this post, is I have serious physical health problems and this person is my carer, and even though I'm searching for other options for carers, it's a very messy situation, and if I don't have someone who can help me, with both my kids having special needs (one with autism, both with ADHD), there is no way I can manage the kids alone. If I remove this carer from my life, the kids will more than likely end up in foster care (which is a very dangerous system here).
I am looking into other options - desperately looking into other options - and I have my own psychologist and a social worker helping me try to find solutions, as well as others trying to help, but it's not easy, not easy at all. Especially when there are custody issues with my kids (and safety issues with the oldest's father) to take into account that mean moving somewhere where I know I could get help isn't an option without leaving the kids behind, which is I suppose technology an option but not one I'm willing to do to my kids.
It's just hard - I can't escape the abuse of this person in my life without screwing up my kids' futures. But it's so hard to get even some professionals to see the damage that someone with avoidant personality can do when they are control freaks.