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There's endless possibilities, of course.

She didn't want me to be jealous and I wasn't. Only to realise she did want me to be jealous. But also she didn't.

NK, and this is me reading into it, I get the sense with these two phrases that there is perhaps a protection of the idea of your m happening here, perhaps to avoid the truth of what was actually happening and keep some sort of connection because that's what little kids need. I feel like my second t very clearly tried to break my FOO "illusion" by asking me, how does it feel to know no one in your family actually loved you? I couldn't process it at the time at all. It wasn't until 10/12 years later after dating someone I was pretty sure was a narcissist that I thought hmmm maybe I should look into what he said about my m being a narcissist, and that's how I ended up here, four years later. But the reality was actually believing that took an incredibly long time with lots of back and forth, and never really resolved until my m passed and when I came across my gm's psychological reports that things "solidified."

It seems like she was there in some capacity through a very dark time for you, and speaking from personal experience, it can be hard to let go of that, or see the other side.

Again, I'm speaking from my own experience here, so please take what resonates and leave the rest.

Sending you support,
dolly

Like NK said, what geese bonding time to share with your kids 

Geese = great

Hey NK,

To me, it seems like it doesn't have anything to do with you as Desert Flower pointed out, but more to do with her. It also seems like an attempt to pit you, or triangulate you, against your sister. They love things like this and it gives them the upper hand and "power" over other people. It's also very hard for me to acknowledge that this kind of manipulation would, or could be coming from people who told me that they loved me.

Sending you support 
dolly

We're just at a point where we need someone to help us tackle this from all the same angles that we have to, and finding someone both willing and capable of that isn't easy. At the very least, we need to find doctors/providers that are willing to work together with each other to help us. We're working on it. It's just taking longer than we can really handle on our own

I'm sorry asdis and perhaps this is the part that is most triggering. Looking back over what's happened over the last 10 years, I think I was hoping that someone would have all the answers and sort it out, much like how I hoped FOO would be there for me in the way that I needed when I was struggling, but weren't. In a way, I had to be my own best advocate and learn as much as I could, and temper it with what the doctors could or couldn't tell me, and find someone that had more knowledge about what happening. It was really stressful. It wasn't until I started seeing the functional medicine practitioner that she eventually linked it back to mold (again, only part of the problem though and didn't touch on MCAS), but even that took a couple of years. Me having to fight for my health hasn't really stopped.

But what I was trying to say above is that some times it takes a while for the inflammation to die down and your body to stop becoming reactive to things. I cut out histamine in the summer and would fall asleep if I ate anything with tomatoes. Now, I had a pizza last week and didn't feel that. So, I think over time my body has processed the extra histamine that was there and allowed more tolerance though I'm pretty sure it will come back if I eat too much histamine.

Sending you support 
dolly

I'm sorry asdis, all that is really tough.

It took me years of trying to get someone to believe me that something was going on and it wasn't all in my head, trying to manage it on my own. Sometimes that's what you have to do and it is in way, like reliving my trauma again ie being in the hospital with my m because I couldn't breathe at age 5, questioning if I really needed to be there because she had to get up and go to work the next morning. Did she stop smoking or consider it when the doctors told her it was a problem for me? Definitely not.

So, I read a lot and tried a ton of different things, trying to get some answers from doctors over the years. What I found that worked for me, was making some changes ie cutting out gluten when I thought my symptoms were related to Hashimoto's Thyroiditis. I cut it out for three weeks and had a reaction (acute joint pain) about 20 minutes after I ate it. That signalled to me that something was up. So, I stuck with it. However, all my symptoms didn't go away, but I could see a very real cause and effect from that. I asked the doctors to genetically test me for celiac and they did, but it was neagative. They had no further answers. The inflammation took a long time to go away and clear from my system, but it did until I moved and was exposed to mold again and then proceeded another round of trying to find out what was going on. I miss eating sourdough bread, but to me, the benefits of not feeling sick that I could distinctly feel, outweighed the foods that I could no longer eat.

I will also say that my symptoms were not just on a physical level, eating gluten also did something to my mood and cognitive function. I would feel like I "hated the world," and would feel quite mentally dark as well as lacking the ability to focus. So, this stuff is tricky because the symptoms aren't always solely physical. I know someone who tried the autoimmune paleo diet after I suggested it to her, and it made an incredible improvement (so much so that she was thinking about selling her car because it was so painful to shift at the end of a working day, to not having that problem), but the diet is/was so difficult, and she was having to meal prep on top of working 14 hour days that she didn't know how to keep up. Of course if you're having issues with oxalates and/or salicytes as well, it can compound the foods that you can't eat. But over time, these little steps help to calm your body down a bit to take the next step.

The other thing I found that helped me was to find online communities of people who had the things I thought I did and learn for them. It helped me find out what are the correct diagnostic tests that doctors should be running, so there wasn't your test results are fine and there's nothing wrong with you, as well as what are the functional levels that actually need to be on a good lab result (functional medicine was what helped me source the problem and it does suck because it costs an absolute fortune, but your insurance may cover it as I think some peoples' do). It was also good to hear stories about what did and didn''t work for people, but there are also dead ends too, and people chasing their own snake oil cures.

You are taking care of yourself in a way that your FOO didn't and that's great  Sending you support to take the next step.

This was really valid for me especially the part about being connected to self (or how I'm interpreting it through an IFS lens), and what happens during a therapy session where one wants to earnestly "do good" so they can get better, but also don't feel like they have access to the things the therapist is talking about. Been there. I also relate to treating the therapist as the one that has all the answers and wonder if some of the struggle now between my t and I is me trying to assert more of myself, and her not necessarily being in that position any more. Would like to read the book as well.

edit: oh! I just realized that she also wrote, Believing Me, which I really related to and found helpful.

That's interesting NK - I read her treatment of Mate as someone who wanted to make sure that his views were given equal weight and that it was not a biased, witch-hunt take, given in a way that he has time to explain himself and space for the other person to listen and receive what he said, but as I understand, he never came back with an explanation or accountability.

I think we're living in a culture that is trying to be divisive and people, what ever "side" they may be affiliated with use it to their advantage. What I do feel like is happening universally is that people are being inundated with information and misinformation that is specifically targeted to illcit an emotional response. This is purposefully designed by the algorithms we interact with on a daily basis. There is always a "spin." A few years ago, I read a book called Post Truth by Lee McIntyre that was published in 2018 where we are now living (according to the blurb) that in a post-truth era when "alternative facts" replace actual facts and feelings have more weight than evidence. One could also argue that how was that even a true reality in the first place, but I think it's about "intellectual integrity" and let's say scientific reasoning. If those don't matter than what do we have - people that are willing to distort the truth for their own personal gain at the expense of others?

I also don't disagree that it's wrong to monetize something. What I appreciate about what she's saying is the process over peer reviewed study (so necessary for doctors and scientific basis) is not being followed for the programs that he is selling where there has been evidence (albeit anecdotal and not a vast survey) of it being carried out by less than qualified people with methods that can be retraumatizing.

I also live in the UK and am aware of the covid inquiry. It would be great if they could use that money to better plan for the next pandemic. However, and independent report found that Covid fraud cost the tax payer £10.9 billion (from the Gov.uk website) and I agree that whoever, whatever "side" they're on, should be accountable for that. To me, that is corruption.

I appreciate you sharing your views on this.

Ooof the fact that she's 20 years older just makes it feel like a gross misuse of power, especially if the friendship started when you were a teenager. Good for you for coming to these realizations and setting some boundaries. A gif with no message attached seems like a weak attempt at real friendship and more like "hoovering" to me.

I also had friends from childhood/teenage years where we've gone our separate ways though they were my age. It's a difficult time to navigate and we don't always come out on the other side as the same people that once held the friendship together (funny, as I'm writing this I'm recalling a recent dream that I forgot and feeling very emotional because I was explaining to one friend precisely why I stopped being friends with another that she is still friends with, which was because when a silver bracelet went missing while I was visiting her, and I knew precisely where I left it, she sided with the roommate who I think took it. This friend also came "back" a few years later when she heard what I was doing, that I must be doing well etc, and wanted me to use my skills to do something for her when I didn't even get an invite to her wedding. I think the issue was not being stood up for that made me feel so emotional in the dream, and I'm glad that you're doing that for yourself.)

Charisma is so enticing to us humans. And, when it is paired with real (and promised) affection, long-hoped for understanding, and relief for vulnerable folks... well, we become "followers", we overlook inconsistencies, we're capable of believing it hook, line, and sinker.

I respect the ability of the author of that letter to see clearly, to analyze, to assess, to discern, to advocate, and to coherently communicate. Even as it meant confronting some personal disillusionment and required calling out a mainstream, admired expert.

I highly agree Marcine and it sounds like you have developed discernment and balance yourself through your own trials and tribulations. It is always a fine balance for me to walk between the "real and hoped for affection" and being discerning with peoples' actions and often find I veer off into being too trusting (ie I wasn't allowed to mistrust with FOO) and being overly mistrustful (also probably FOO's programming of you can't trust anyone other than us).

So, when these people do show up in my life that have slipped up, sometimes there's vacillation between the two. However, I think her discussion of accountability is a good blueprint for what to look for when you have never had that in your life as well as it's not wrong for people to be accountable. It's ok to ask for these things. I guess whether or not we get them and how to deal with the fallout from that is another thing. 

I'm glad you could relate to it Marcine.

It brought up a lot off relevant points and though it might provoke some discussion. I think his methods helped people establish a "new way" of thinking and looking at trauma, but when does that fall outside what is acceptable especially for people who have been dismissed by the established psychological institutions for a long time (ie how long it has taken for cptsd to be recognized as a credible diagnosis). Like the author said, it leaves a lot of "wiggle room" for what is and is not acceptable, or credible and potentially retraumatizing, especially when someone is making money off of it.

Well done SO  Here's to 2026 

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4. PROMOTING PSEUDOSCIENCE

Your scientific cherry-picking, misrepresentation of clinical data, and reliance on long-outdated and refuted theories is so extensive that a complete rebuttal goes far beyond the scope of this letter.

To name just a few areas where you promote disinformation:

You claim a causal relationship between trauma and various somatic diseases, including autoimmune illness and cancer - despite the absence of robust scientific consensus.

You assert a direct link between trauma and ADHD, which is not supported by current clinical evidence.

You frame all addiction as trauma-related, dismissing the complexity of biological, social, and psychological contributors.

You echo outdated ideas about personality traits contributing to cancer, which have been scientifically discredited for decades.

You promote a distorted understanding of how medical and psychological disciplines view somatic and mental health problems.

You misuse and conflate clinical terms demonstrating a lack of psychological and neurobiological understanding. For instance, during your talk at Nowy Teatr in Warsaw, you described attentional difficulties as trauma-based dissociation, conflating entirely separate phenomena.

As stated, I will present detailed examples of this in my upcoming broadcast.

5. PROFESSIONAL FOUL PLAY

In doing all of the above, you show disregard for your professional peers - clinicians, researchers, and educators in both somatic and mental health fields. Worse still, you foster public mistrust in medical, psychological, and academic expertise. In a time when scientific knowledge is under increasing attack, such behavior is especially reckless.

Instead of encouraging collaboration across disciplines - which is now more necessary than ever - you polarize. You alienate. You undermine.

6. BETRAYING TRUST

Dr. Maté, as a medical doctor, you are fully aware of the foundational ethical principle: primum non nocere - first, do no harm. You served under the Hippocratic Oath for decades. There is no excuse for not understanding that promoting pseudotherapy to trauma survivors does harm. It delays, derails, or altogether blocks access to professional, safe, and evidence-based care.

You betray the trust of the very people you claim to advocate for - those healing from betrayal. You also betray the trust of mental health professionals who attend your lectures expecting qualified insight, not therapeutic overreach disguised as wisdom. And you betray the trust of the colleagues and institutions that host you, such as those last Friday in Warsaw. More on that below.

A WORD OF SOMBRE CONCLUSION

What you are doing, Dr. Maté, no longer looks like offering healing opportunities. It looks like manipulation and the abuse of power. It looks like creating ambiguity, where we should strive for clarity. It looks like putting lives at risk, where we should establish safety.

It looks like reproducing trauma.

I wish I could say otherwise after your first visit to Poland. I wish you had not cast this long shadow over your earlier accomplishments.

And I wish I could end this letter here.

But I cannot - because of your response to the protest letter from the Jewish community, which you publicly addressed last Wednesday in Łódź. While I will leave the political aspects to others more qualified, I want to focus on your reaction to the claim that you promote pseudoscience.

Here's what you said:

,,As for pseudoscience, I'd like them to explain why - if I promote pseudoscience - I am invited to speak at psychotherapeutic conferences and universities".

It is a clever line, Dr. Maté. I have been reflecting on it deeply. And unfortunately, I have come to some bleak conclusions.

7. BEING HOSTED BY REPUTABLE INSTITUTIONS WITHOUT TRANSPARENCY

There is no other public figure whose credentials are more widely misrepresented in Poland than yours. Your publisher Wydawnictwo Czarna Owca and media like Vogue Polska list you as a psychiatrist. Przekrój calls you a psychologist. Zwierciadło calls you a famed therapist. You have been referred to as a psychotherapist by Konteksty. Miejsce Psychoterapii and Bożena Haściło - a psychologist, psychotherapist, and Laboratorium Psychoedukacji supervisor. Even dr Natalia Zajączkowska, organizer of your Polish tour, routinely introduces you as "a retired doctor and therapist."

If this were an isolated confusion, I might puzzle over how so many professionals could get it wrong. But after outlining your broader strategy, a more troubling possibility arises: you allow - perhaps even encourage - these misimpressions to stand because they serve your goals.

You do not need to lie. You just do not correct the record.

Well, I will. Because in trauma-informed practice and in social justice, we are taught that when transparency is missing, someone is benefitting from it. In the context of trauma, that person is almost always the perpetrator - or the enabler of harm.

So, to answer your question - why does a pseudoscientist like you get invited to speak at universities and conferences?

First, because you cultivate a misleading public image of your expertise.

Second, because you tailor your message strategically. During your recent tour, you did not say a word about Compassionate Inquiry® or Suicide Attention - even though you just launched a Polish version of the Compassionate Inquiry® website and are clearly entering the Polish market. Why not speak about a modality that forms such a major part of your current work?

Because if you had, you would not have been hosted by any Faculty of Psychology. Your methods, and the way you certify others in them, stand in direct opposition to the Polish Psychologist's Code of Ethics.

Could it be that one of your two certified Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioners in Poland - Dagmara Ziniewicz, also your assistant and Compassionate Inquiry® mentor - advised you to avoid the subject for precisely this reason? I can only speculate.

What I do know is this: neither prof. Katarzyna Schier nor prof. Małgorzata Dragan had any idea about Compassionate Inquiry® or Suicide Attention. I spoke with prof. Schier personally after your Friday event. From what I know, they were both shocked and unsettled.

So yes, Dr. Maté - you already knew the answer to your own question.

You get invited because you mislead people.

You are charismatic. You have carefully cultivated an image: the imperfect, compassionate "uncle Gabor" who speaks truth to trauma. It disarms people. It builds a following. It makes them stop asking hard questions.

And of course, you could argue that your websites are public, and it is not your fault that others fail to investigate thoroughly. And in part, you would be right.

But here we reach the systemic factors that enable you:

First: A decline in critical thinking and fact-checking among Polish mental health professionals and academics. Compassionate Inquiry® is just one of many pseudotherapies that have quietly slipped past institutional gatekeepers in recent years. This is a problem we must confront head-on and I am prepared to do so.

Second: Role overload in the helping professions. With overwhelming clinical demands, unclear regulations, and a nonstop flow of new methods, it has become nearly impossible for individual professionals to track every emerging model or teacher.

This is why, today, interdisciplinary collaboration and science communication matter more than ever. No one person can hold all the knowledge. But together, across fields and perspectives, we can guard the boundaries of safety and trust.

We have an obligation to protect vulnerable people from charismatic figures selling false hope. If scholars and clinicians do not stand up to pseudoscience - who will?

This is my contribution to making this world more transparent, more accountable, and more just.

And as for you, Dr. Maté, I can only sigh once more, recalling so much of your wisdom:

"You can't separate politics from health and mental health". "Not why the addiction, but why the pain". "Trauma is not what happens to you, but what happens inside you". "Learn to read symptoms not only as problems to be overcome, but as messages to be heeded". "- Why can't parents see their children's pain?

I've had to ask myself the same thing. It's because we haven't seen our own".

And more recently: "Healing trauma needs to begin with the recognition of trauma" (Łódź University), as well as last Friday's reminder: "No one gets complex trauma on their own".

Such accurate and powerful words - yet I will not quote them any more, Dr. Maté. Not because I value them less - I do not. But because there is too much of your darkness running free for me to carry your light forward.

I believe we deserve more than ambiguities. And even more strongly, I believe we can do better.

It is time to reclaim integrity in the service of healing. When we choose clarity over charisma and ethics over influence, we begin again - with truth, and with hope.

With kind regards, Carolina Const

A POST SCRIPTUM CALL TO REFLECTION AND ACTION

for the organizers: Sieć nauczycieli akademickich i osób studenckich związanych z polskimi uniwersytetami Wydział Psychologii UW, Uniwersytet Warszawski, Uniwersytet Wrocławski, Uniwersytet Jagielloński, Uniwersytet im. Adama Mickiewicza w Poznaniu, Uniwersytet Łódzki, Instytut Psychologii UŁ, Akademia Sztuk Pięknych w Łodzi, Fotofestiwal Lodz, Nowy Teatr, Teatr w Krakowie - im. Juliusza Słowackiego, Kino Nowe Horyzonty, Teatr Ósmego Dnia

for the partners and patrons: Ministerstwo Kultury i Dziedzictwa Narodowego, Akademickie Centrum Designu, Łódzkie Centrum Wydarzeń, PURO Hotels

for the media: OKO.press Duży Format Rut Kurkiewicz / tvp.info Justyna Kopinska / Vogue Polska Salam Lab Pawel Moscicki Wydawnictwo Czarna Owca Wydawnictwo Galaktyka

those who quote and share: Laboratorium Psychoedukacji, Ośrodek Pomocy i Edukacji Psychologicznej Intra, Fundacja Małgosi Braunek Bądź, Polskie Towarzystwo Psychoterapii Psychoanalitycznej, Instytut Poliwagalny

trauma therapists and researchers in Poland: Centrum Badań nad Traumą i Kryzysami Życiowymi, Centrum Badań nad Traumą i Dysocjacją, Polskie Towarzystwo Psychotraumatologii, Polskie Towarzystwo Psychologiczne, Uniwersytet SWPS, Małgorzata Dragan, Marcin Rzeszutek, Igor Pietkiewicz, Radosław Tomalski

[Because in trauma-informed practice and in social justice, we are taught that when transparency is missing, someone is benefitting from it. In the context of trauma, that person is almost always the perpetrator - or the enabler of harm.]

So, as I wrote in my journal, I came across this letter to Gabor Mate via a reddit post (after trying to find the original lecture behind a suspected deep fake Gabor Mate video). I found it thoughtful, provoking and insightful and wanted to leave it here. I think it's interesting for survivors of abuse to have to navigate safe people, and one of the fundamental concepts I grapple with is how to trust again?

I think I have learned as she says that when transparency is missing, someone is always benefitting, usually the perpetrator of harm.

"But after outlining your broader strategy, a more troubling possibility arises: you allow - perhaps even encourage - these misimpressions to stand because they serve your goals.

You do not need to lie. You just do not correct the record.

Well, I will. Because in trauma-informed practice and in social justice, we are taught that when transparency is missing, someone is benefitting from it. In the context of trauma, that person is almost always the perpetrator - or the enabler of harm."

Emphasis mine.

So, perhaps this is why I always have a need to search for the "objective truth" in matters and that peoples' subjective realities can be hard to reconcile with their "misuse" of power, where even the ones that want to help us might harm us.

Original post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/therapists/comments/1lf7ot2/gabor_mat%C3%A9_an_open_letter/

Edit - some people seem to think I wrote this, I didn't. Carolina Const did.

I'm reposting here an open letter from a Polish psychologist in response to Gabor Maté's speaking tour of Poland. I think incredibly well written and nuanced, but wondering what y'all think. Reading this reinforces for me the importance of professional ethics. Gonna post the whole thing here, it's long:

AN OPEN LETTER TO DR. GABOR MATÉ LIST OTWARTY DO DRA GABORA MATÉ (Przewiń w dół dla wersji polskiej - pojawi się najpóźniej w południe 17 czerwca 2025)

Dear Dr. Gabor Maté,

I am writing this letter as a psychologist, as a professional working with trauma survivors using evidence-based, body- and mindfulness-based approaches, and as a complex trauma survivor.

I will remain forever grateful for the tremendous work you have done to destigmatize addiction and trauma. Those who have walked this path know what a difficult and painstaking course it is - to make trauma and suffering known, seen, and met with compassion. After all, as Leo Eitinger once said, "War and victims are something the community wants to forget; a veil of oblivion is drawn over everything painful and unpleasant".

And here you are, in my vastly traumatized home country. Touring Warszawa, Kraków, Poznań, Wrocław, and Łódź with "Dr. Gabor Maté Poland Tour" over the past five days. Undeterred and devoted to making it more difficult for people to look away.

This makes me assume that you do realize how trauma is, at its core, an abuse of power - as prof. Judith Herman clearly proved over thirty years ago. Power may mean many things: a title, profession, popularity, authority, access to information, control over the narrative. And its nature is dynamic. During this very tour, you said yourself that when we do not heal trauma, we may unsettlingly easily shift from being trauma survivors to becoming trauma perpetrators. I could not agree more.

Last Friday evening, I sat down at the former University Library in Warsaw. The lecture hall was filled to the brim. Like so many others, I came to listen - to you. To what would come up in your dialogue with some of Poland's top trauma researchers: prof. Katarzyna Schier, a renowned psychologist and psychoanalyst, and prof. Małgorzata Dragan, head of the Polish Society for Traumatic Stress Studies Polskie Towarzystwo Badań nad Stresem Traumatycznym - both of whom work at the University of Warsaw's Trauma Lab. My heart jumped when I heard that prof. Maja Lis-Turlejska was present there too - a true legend and a pioneer to whom anyone providing or receiving trauma therapy in Poland owes a bow. What a gathering.

What a gathering! - I gasped. I came over to see it all with my own eyes because I still could not believe it. I hoped that some questions would be asked, or that at the very least I could ask them myself. Since I was not granted the opportunity during or after your lecture, here I am - writing a letter of concern that I would so much prefer were a deep-hearted "thank you" instead. But if I am to keep my conscience clear, I cannot thank you. I should not.

I must not.

Dr. Maté, you are a medical doctor by profession. You know that scope of practice is neither snobbery nor elitism. Scope of practice defines professional boundaries of skill and competence to provide quality, accountability, and - above all - safety, both for those we help and for ourselves. Here in Poland, we know this particularly well, because only two weeks ago, we finally passed a draft law regulating the profession of psychologist. We know that exceeding the limits of one's professional role and responsibilities - as defined by education, training, experience, and legal and ethical standards - brings about suffering. In the context of your tour, it all too often exacerbates hurt and trauma.

Yesterday, at the University of Warsaw, some of your first words were that no one gets complex trauma on their own. You are then well aware that trauma only thrives under certain conditions: ambiguity, non-accountability, ambivalence, manipulation, extreme loss of power and agency, defied boundaries, and denied access to informed choice.

Considering all the above, I struggle to justify your decisions and actions - just as I struggle with you being hosted by esteemed universities, scholars, and journalists. I also fail to believe that it was only by sheer accident that, throughout your tour, you kept on omitting some of your dealings with such diligence.

Before I get to the specifics, let me underscore that the aim of this letter is not to provide counterarguments (which I will readily present in a broadcast that I am currently preparing), but to signal some pressing issues. Below you will find a few that I consider the most relevant in the context of your recent tour.

AUTHORING AND SELLING PSEUDOTHERAPIES

Dr. Maté, you are a retired family physician who has created and marketed Compassionate Inquiry® - a "psychotherapeutic approach created by Dr. Gabor Maté over several decades while working with both patients and retreat participants. This approach gently uncovers and releases the layers of childhood trauma, constriction and suppressed emotion embedded in the body, that are at the root of mental and physical illness and addiction", as described on your website.

You have not tested it clinically. You do not know if it works (except for a handful of selective and anecdotal proofs that you gladly share). You do not know if it is safe. Despite lending Compassionate Inquiry® the credibility of a medical doctor, you do not care to put it to research or clinical verification.

Nor do you care to consult trauma-focused mental health professionals or scholars as contributors to your "psychotherapeutic" approach. To my mind, this should be a given, considering you have no background in the social sciences - like psychology, psychotherapy, or social work. Instead, you invite Sat Dharam Kaur, a naturopath and kundalini yoga teacher, as the co-creator.

Oh, I do not discard the therapeutic potential in yoga. I am, in fact, honored to work as a hatha yoga teacher. I am also a Trauma Center Trauma-Sensitive Yoga facilitator and licensed trainer. And I worked as a licensed aromatherapist when I lived in Norway, where this occupation is regulated by the state. This is where I learned - I was obliged to learn and respect - both the possibilities and the limits of my professions. It saddens me that you do not seem to care for them at least as much.

What saddens me even more is that - somehow - you did care enough to register Compassionate Inquiry® as your trademark.

I am now pausing to let out a long sigh. Dr. Maté, you offer and capitalize on a "psychotherapeutic approach" that gives the impression of being medically backed, trauma-focused psychotherapy - without being one. I cannot call it anything other than an abuse of power and authority.

2. CERTIFYING TRAUMA THERAPISTS WITHOUT PROPER CREDENTIALS OR OVERSIGHT

To my great concern, your website states that Compassionate Inquiry® "can lead to certification" and that "anyone can take this course" - with no required educational or professional background in healthcare or mental health.

At the same time, you describe the Compassionate Inquiry® Professional Online Training as "targeted for professionals already working with clients, such as addiction counselors, psychotherapists, psychologists, medical doctors, naturopaths, life coaches, and other related fields, whose scope of practice includes counseling". In other words, you openly admit and train people who practice unregulated professions - such as homeopaths, yoga teachers, massage therapists, acupuncturists, and life coaches - and you allow them to believe it is entirely acceptable to present themselves as "trauma therapists" after completing your $3,900 CAD program.

And they do.

On your website, "graduates" of this program are listed as CI Psychotherapists and CI Practitioners. I have checked this multiple times - these labels appear without exception. Moreover, you recommend some of them as trusted providers, despite many having no formal training or licensure in psychotherapy, psychology, social work, or medicine. Nonetheless, you certify and promote them to the general public - including vulnerable individuals coping with trauma, mental illness, and chronic disease.

This is not simply unethical. In some jurisdictions, it is illegal.

Let me emphasize: training others in trauma therapy - or issuing a certificate that may be misinterpreted as a clinical license or professional endorsement - while not being a licensed mental health professional yourself, is a serious breach of ethical and professional responsibility.

To illustrate the implications of this, I will share one concrete example. A popular Polish yoga teacher and influencer enrolled in your program and, after just one year of online training, could have become a Compassionate Inquiry® therapist. She later chose to withdraw, saying the training was "too much for her, emotionally" (personal communication, April 4, 2022). And that brings us to another issue.

3. CLAIMING TO TREAT TRAUMA WITHOUT ACCOUNTABILITY

What is particularly troubling is that that Compassionate Inquiry® promotes itself as a trauma-informed modality while bypassing the most basic standards of clinical safety, professional accountability, and ethical responsibility.

Your materials repeatedly blur the line between inspiration and treatment. There is a fundamental difference between sharing personal insights and offering therapeutic guidance. Yet you present yourself as an authority on trauma - without submitting your method to peer review, without clinical testing, and without any accountability framework for its application. In your lectures, books, and trainings, there is no distinction made between regulated professionals and those with no formal education in mental health. Your public does not seem to know or care. But we, as professionals, must care. We have an ethical duty to do so.

Trauma is not a soft, spiritual issue that can be "healed" through empathy, intuition, or borrowed techniques alone. Responsible trauma therapy demands rigorous knowledge of psychopathology, clinical ethics, and intervention safety. If a participant in a Compassionate Inquiry® session experiences dissociation, flashbacks, suicidal ideation, or retraumatization - what systems are in place to ensure their safety? What kind of emergency response protocol do your "practitioners" follow? Are they even trained to assess risk?

The consequences of poorly facilitated trauma work are not abstract. Untrained practitioners can cause retraumatization, confusion, emotional flooding, and a lasting mistrust in professional help. If these practitioners are not regulated or held to a professional code, survivors have nowhere to turn for recourse.

You do not address any of this in your public materials. And from what I witnessed personally, the situation is worse than omission - it is normalization.

In 2024, I attended a Compassionate Inquiry® demonstration session led by your co-director Sat Dharam Kaur. What I saw was not "gentle uncovering and releasing", but a fast track to retraumatization. The sessions typically followed this structure:

Ask a participant to recall a dark or painful life experience (someone with whom you have no therapeutic relationship and whose mental health history is unknown),

Evoke and amplify strong emotional reactions,

Then label the visible distress as "release".

Any trained trauma therapist knows how easy it is to trigger overwhelming emotions in survivors. And any practitioner familiar with the foundational three-phase model of trauma treatment knows that stabilization and establishing safety must come first. Skipping that phase is not just negligent - it is dangerous.

I am not alone in this concern. Participants in your courses have voiced similar doubts globally. But let me ask you this: Will a trauma survivor in distress be able to recognize such violations? Will they have the internal resources or support to take action if harmed? Or are they left, once again, to carry the consequences alone?

Unfortunately, it does not end there.

For some time now you offer a Compassionate Inquiry® Suicide Attention Training - a 25-hour online course described as a "comprehensive, experiential training for therapists, health professionals, and people working in education, medical, or personal development fields." You promise to equip participants to "hold space for clients in suicidal distress" and provide "effective therapeutic interventions that support the client's healing and growth."

What this actually appears to be is a skillfully marketed invitation to take clinical risks with people's lives - without oversight, regulation, or consequence.

Another thing that troubles me is your continued dismissal of suicidologists and licensed mental health professionals in favor of individuals who appear to lack adequate training. For example, this training is co-led by:

Camilla Monroe, an undergraduate in Arts, who now calls herself an "integrative psychotherapist" after completing your two-year Compassionate Inquiry® program and a year of Polyvagal (sic!) with Deb Dana.

Irina Ungureanu, an actress describing herself as a "trauma-informed therapist" with a background in transpersonal psychology and performative arts. She holds a PhD in interculturalism, yet her psychotherapeutic credentials are far more difficult to trace than her acting work.

This is not innovation. This is not advocacy. This is recklessness.

And as with your broader Compassionate Inquiry® approach, this model leaves vulnerable people exposed to significant harm - while those facilitating the harm remain legally and ethically unaccountable.

Hey Chart,

I just want to clarify that I'm not encouraging you to let go of your fear. I think it's always something we will have in us, but perhaps our approaches on how to manage it will change with time. Maybe it's how does my fear shape the choices I'm making towards my health and well being, which might be directed by fear, or perhaps another way of putting it is child consciousness? For example, is the approach I'm taking now towards my health furthering the struggle I endured as a child, and not coming from a place of adult consciousness?

I hope you spend time with your little four year old. I can only imagine that a young boy growing up without a father would have to find ways and ideas of having to be "big and strong" with no weakness to exist in the world.

Sending you support,
dolly

I actually don't go to doctors, except for my kids. I don't like to recognize that I am weak or broken or need anything.

I've come across it before in reading, and again recently in some Jay Reid videos, that trauma survivors are so used to things being difficult that that's what's expected. Actually, I think it was probably my EMDR t or my second t who also said, life is already so difficult, why make it harder? Again, I guess it crops up in prediction error ie we think we're going to be living in the same stressful environment over and over, so we have to be primed and "ready," but why not take the easy road? Why not try and get surgery for the hernia, or the shoulder? I think that I felt like this for a long time, and definitely still do subconsciously with some things, and that if I didn't have the fight, or the struggle then what did I have? It was always the struggle (or fear because I never know what is coming) that was familiar and without it, who would I be?

I hope all the best for your outer and inner family in 2026