I just want to say that I have bpd diagnoses and honestly I think it's like this cptsd and bpd are the same thing. I think that's hard to except sense most of us grew up thinking " is it me or is it them ?" And when we have this ah ha moment about bpd and how " omg bpd is what my parent has !" It can feel like a god send! So to think it's been passed down to us the victims!!! That's too much to handle! But what I think is the actual issue is this...
Years ago if you had all of the bpd symptoms which there are 350? Traites that can make up bpd and you only have to have 9 for a diagnosis lol. Anyway years ago if a man walks into the shrink and says I do x y z and it's causing issues, they where labelled either PTSD narrcessist or scociopath. Now if a women says I do x y z and it's causing issues in my life ... Well they where " hysterical " or borderline. Bpd is passed down via two things in my understanding 60% genetics ( I believe the label highly sensitive person constitutes the genetic component personally ) and 40% environment. That means we have this highly sensitive little baby picking up on all of the sensory / emotional stimuli from caregivers and environment and trying to express this to caregivers to mirror them. However caregivers with bpd or npd do not take this as a warning " oh hey my child's acting out I need to validate them " soooooo little child is instead told that there emotional reactions are wrong they are confused and must act look feel the opposite of what they are experancing physically.
So what I'm saying is as hard as it is to fight the urge to " label yourself " and others and patterns and anything you can to gain some sense of control back... Labels don't solve emotional pain or emotional dysregulation. It's a wild goose chase and in the end it is another way to intellectualize the emotional pain that got is here. I'm not at all saying it's wrong to seek proper diagnosis but the stigma attached to bpd is not there so much anymore! They now recognize it as learned coping vrs. " your a crazy borderline " many poor traumatized people where retraumatized by the treatment they received in getting that diagnosis! It's not that way now due to the " bio psychosocial " theory's of development vrs all that shamefull Freudian stuff... I believe the key in good help is addressing dissociation first! Master grounding during disregulation and avoid the crazy bpd like acting out or acting in , that way the memory process won't drive you to trance out and do uncharicteristic things for your self.
One more thing : the in acting / quiet bpd or waif is so similler to cptsd I so no real distinction at all.
Hard to not label ourselves but I really think the behaviors are what needs addressing not the names. Like others have said in this thread. Really hard for me sense I was labelled horrible untrue things in childhood, of course I don't want a bpd label society has told me that's conformation I'm defective! But it's not, it's 3 letters vrs. 5cptsd. Now that I found a dissociative specialist I don't care what letters they call me as long as I got help staying right here and not living in the flashback past that hurts me so much. If memories do surface I now get them validated and that makes them go back to where they where meant to be stored in my brain not my amagdyla which has tasks to do today and should not be holding memories of dissociated states in my past.
Years ago if you had all of the bpd symptoms which there are 350? Traites that can make up bpd and you only have to have 9 for a diagnosis lol. Anyway years ago if a man walks into the shrink and says I do x y z and it's causing issues, they where labelled either PTSD narrcessist or scociopath. Now if a women says I do x y z and it's causing issues in my life ... Well they where " hysterical " or borderline. Bpd is passed down via two things in my understanding 60% genetics ( I believe the label highly sensitive person constitutes the genetic component personally ) and 40% environment. That means we have this highly sensitive little baby picking up on all of the sensory / emotional stimuli from caregivers and environment and trying to express this to caregivers to mirror them. However caregivers with bpd or npd do not take this as a warning " oh hey my child's acting out I need to validate them " soooooo little child is instead told that there emotional reactions are wrong they are confused and must act look feel the opposite of what they are experancing physically.
So what I'm saying is as hard as it is to fight the urge to " label yourself " and others and patterns and anything you can to gain some sense of control back... Labels don't solve emotional pain or emotional dysregulation. It's a wild goose chase and in the end it is another way to intellectualize the emotional pain that got is here. I'm not at all saying it's wrong to seek proper diagnosis but the stigma attached to bpd is not there so much anymore! They now recognize it as learned coping vrs. " your a crazy borderline " many poor traumatized people where retraumatized by the treatment they received in getting that diagnosis! It's not that way now due to the " bio psychosocial " theory's of development vrs all that shamefull Freudian stuff... I believe the key in good help is addressing dissociation first! Master grounding during disregulation and avoid the crazy bpd like acting out or acting in , that way the memory process won't drive you to trance out and do uncharicteristic things for your self.
One more thing : the in acting / quiet bpd or waif is so similler to cptsd I so no real distinction at all.
Hard to not label ourselves but I really think the behaviors are what needs addressing not the names. Like others have said in this thread. Really hard for me sense I was labelled horrible untrue things in childhood, of course I don't want a bpd label society has told me that's conformation I'm defective! But it's not, it's 3 letters vrs. 5cptsd. Now that I found a dissociative specialist I don't care what letters they call me as long as I got help staying right here and not living in the flashback past that hurts me so much. If memories do surface I now get them validated and that makes them go back to where they where meant to be stored in my brain not my amagdyla which has tasks to do today and should not be holding memories of dissociated states in my past.