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Ehhhhh.....I wouldn't be so sure....the only thing he's not over, is the fact that you actually managed to get away from him. He is an abusive man, with a NP. The only thing he's missing is hurting and controlling you.

See, my wife is a lot like that. While I haven't left her yet, I am working on it. She says all kinds of nasty things to me, about how no woman will ever want me cuz I'm so screwed up and stuff. Check this out...she even said no man would ever want me either!?!? She's convinced I'm gay, because I won't have sex with her. Well I won't have sex with her anymore because I now know what she is. Okay...so I'm a screwed up mentally ill gay man...right? She even tells me that after baby is adopted I should just move out, then. But then, after all that abuse and such..she says, stay with me and we can work it out and make it work. HOW???
I know she has been abusing me since day one!!! Physically and sexually and mentally and verbally and emotionally .... pretty much all the tenets of DV!!! I might be dumb, but I sure aint stupid!!! And if for no other reason, my kids must know that they don't have to stay in abusive relationships either..I must leave her.

So you axh, isn't missing you and pining for you....no no....he misses the control he had over you. To his abusive NP mind, you represent his biggest failure, the one that got away, that escaped his abusive ways. That makes you super awesome in my books! Your son will be so much better off as he grows up, because he no longer sees his daddy abusing his mommy.

You are so so awesome!!!!!

I'm sorry to hear you're having such a difficult time, and I hope you can leave that abusive situation soon. I know it must be really difficult, especially when you have a child.  Thankfully, you know what the problem is. That part of the struggle is over. People with NPD don't think they're doing anything wrong.