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Thank you all for sharing your advice, your own experiences, and how your thoughts on this! I know it will be a long road to unwind the perfectionistic inner critic that has hijacked my thoughts and actions. I appreciate all your responses, it really helps to know that others struggle too. Thank you. 

Hello Candid and Aphotic,

Thank you for letting me know others struggle with this too. It really helps to know that...
I'll do some research and see what I can find....I'm a fixer who is getting certified to be a mental health counselor.
If I find any good stuff I'll post back or start a new one down the line...

Best Wishes,
Manda

Hello Everyone,

Sorry if I happen to put this Topic in the wrong spot. I've never posted here before at all. I have been diagnosed with CPTSD (childhood) with repeat trauma in adulthood. I am in therapy and doing well.

I am a high achiever and can't seem to stop punishing myself (mentally) when I fail to meet my expectations for myself. Logically I know they are unrealistic for anyone - but emotionally I can't seem to stop falling into the cycle of self blame. I also have a hard time recognizing any good, positive things I do that other people may have a sincere since of pride in - I think this normally enhances self esteem.

What has worked for others trying to break the cycle of perfectionism & punishment? How do you learn to tell yourself you are valuable?
Any thoughts would be appreciated! Thank you!

Hello As You Wish,

Thank you for sharing your story with us. I'm new to all this and was very glad to read something written by someone brave enough to tell their truth. Good Luck on your path wherever it may lead.

Best Wishes,
Manda