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Rosemarie
Thank you so much for replying.
I love the idea of one word. That is such a wonderful idea. I can do that. I will work on that and come up with something.
We sound like we have had similar experiences. One would think one narcissistic relationship would be enough but somehow we found ourselves in another. I figure at least the second guy was less narcissistic than the first so I'm improving a little 😉
Keep your ideas and encouragement coming because they help. You sound like a kind and giving person. Thank you for your generous spirit. Wishing you well. ☀

Rosemarie,
You speak the words in my head. I can relate to you easily.
My childhood set me up for relationships in later life with two narcissists. Though 10 years separated the relationships and I thought I knew how not to let a narcissist into my life, I nonetheless allowed the second one in.
I am just now being able to say that he in fact is a narcissist. This after not being with him nor speaking to him for 6 months. I kept rationalizing his behavior and felt guilty about blaming him for anything; I blamed myself. I see now that all the troubles I have been having for the years I was with him and now are due to the trauma of the relationship and reliving the trauma of my childhood. At least that is what I believe and I plan to talk with my therapist about this.
I like your nice words about yourself. My therapist has been asking me to do that for months but I told I couldn't. Part of the reason is as you stated, fear of being narcissistic, self-agrandizing.
I look forward to reading more of your thoughts on recovery as I begin mine. Thank you for sharing your thoughts