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I've had my fair share of similar experiences too. And indeed you never know how they or the people around you will react if you say something about it. It always makes me feel extremely anxious. The worst situations have been the ones where I was younger and a group of guys would be pressuring each other into getting touchy, invading my space, and laughing about it together. And the worst thing is that no one would do anything, leaving me feel extremely worthless.

Thank you both for your kind and supportive words. 

Today I had therapy again. I have therapy every other week and sometimes every three weeks. I've been seeing her for my depression and I never really told her how much I'm struggle with my past. But mostly due to your encouraging and validating words I finally had enough courage to tell her. It felt good sharing it although I was extremely anxious beforehand. We're gonna talk about it more next time but she was really validating. I'm glad she understood that this is something I've been struggling with for a long time. And she didn't pressure me into opening up about everything straight away.

Again, thank you so much for your replies. It just makes me feel a bit normal I guess, knowing I'm notbthe only one struggling and that I'm not crazy or exaggerating.

Also, sorry if this isn't the right place to post this.

I became severely depressed at the age of 13. I'm 17 now. I'm also struggling with eating problems and self-harm.

Yesterday I was struggling to not dissociate, so I started searching online for some ways to help me ground myself. I had been struggling with dissociation for quite some time but recently it had gotten less. That morning some things were really triggering and I just couldn't really come up with coping ways on my own. Anyway, I stumbled across Pete Walker's website. I started reading and recognised so much of what was being described. Emotional flashbacks, abandonment depression, the 4Fs, etc. However I've never really been abused or neglected. When I was younger my parents were busy with my twin brother a lot because he had a lot of problems. I felt that when I was struggling a bit it wasn't significant enough to mention to my parents because they were busy with my brother. I didn't wanna bother them. But it wasn't like they always ignored me, it just felt a little like it. My parents also used to fight a lot (and sadly they still do). It has never gotten physical, just screaming at each other, slamming doors, ignoring each other. But they tried not to do it in front it us. I spend a lot of evenings while they were fighting in my bed, curled up, crying because I felt unsafe, but they never took it out on me so it wasn't that bad and I didn't really have a reason to be that scared. I've also been bullied throughout primary school but never that badly. 
Now if my parents (or other people for that matter) fight I will feel exactly the same small vulnerable unsafe child as I used to be. And when my parents give but remotely more attention to my brother I can become extremely jealous but also very upset. But I feel like I can't be struggling with this because it's not half as bad as anyone else on here. Anyway I guess I'm just looking for some validation and a place to at least write down what I'm struggling with.