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Wow it sounds like you're dealing with a lot 
Thank you very much
I hope you do well in your therapy/healing journey too.
 

It's frustrating isn't it...you want to address your trauma so you can heal, but you have to be stable first.
It makes sense...it's just frustrating!
What do you mean by stabilising your whole life? Like stable housing, relationships etc?

Hi everyone,
Has anyone found DBT (dialectical behavioural therapy) therapy helpful at all?

I have been told I am too unstable to work on my trauma, so I am starting DBT soon to be able to manage my emotions. Then hopefully I can do trauma work.

"I cut you out of my life 15 years ago and you still impact every moment, every breath. You shadow me like a demonic presence in a bad horror movie."

You are a good writer. Your letter really resonated with me, especially the above quote!

You've all given me lots to think about.
Sorry I was very negative in my first post. I now see things differently.
Plus it turns out I was only in bed for a few days...I am slowly recovering.....and I have since figured out that it was my body reacting to a triggering event (an issue with my narcissist dad).
Thanks again for all your replies... I hope you're all well 

Thanks for your replies.
There's lots of new information emerging. It's good to keep an open mind. Y
Yes unfortunately some people get very aggressive about their viewpoints.
But we are all different and we need to find something that works for us.
SecondChance could you be getting worse because you are addressing your trauma? Maybe you will get better the more you heal?

I'm glad you're feeling better and have found something that works for you.
What do you mean by radical stance? Are the methods of these doctors controversial or something?

How many people here also have a chronic illness?

I read that being in fight/fight/freeze trauma state for a long period of time can cause illnesses such as chronic fatigue syndrome.

That's what I have. Over the years I have slowly built up my strength and now I can go to the gym twice a week.
HOWEVER THE LAST 3 months have been so stressful, that I have reverted back to being in bed all day. Years of hard work down the drain 

The body just gets to a point where it's like "I need to shut down"

A lot of people here are saying they were able to slowly remember memories that had been erased...I would love to know how. I want to remember!

Is any particular type of therapy helpful for this?

With my CPTSD, a lot of my life has been erased from my memories, including one traumatic event I only found out about a few months ago.
Does anyone else have this?

I know that most people want to erase their bad memories, but I really want to remember. My narcissistic father already makes me doubt that anything bad happened...so I need my memories back so I can confirm what I already know.

For so long I thought I was crazy because I was having these random feelings come up and not knowing why I felt like that. For example, I would feel anxious and empty when my husband left for work...and a couple of months ago I found out I was emotionally abandoned suddenly by my father (after being enmeshed with him for so long).
I guess it's just frustrating not remembering so much of my life! 

Thank you for your replies!

Trust me I completely understand how a narcissist thinks, acts, and their tactics. That's not the problem.
I have plenty of knowledge about narcissists and cptsd, but what I lack is someone who can empathise with me, and truly understand what I am going through.

I plan on cutting out my family when I'm ready. But I feel like I am already mourning their loss. And it hurts so bad! And as if my dad hasn't screwed me up enough...now he is taking my family away from me. I have so much anger towards him I want to explode.

Hi everyone!

It's nice to be among people who understand trauma.   

If I was to say I was physically or sexually abused, people would feel sorry for me. I hate that emotional abuse is misunderstood and viewed as 'not as bad' as any other type of abuse.

I grew up with a father who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Narcissistic abuse has ruined my life. I am so alone. My father has convinced my family that I'm crazy and HE is the victim. At a time I need support the most, he is ruining my reputation and turning my family against me.

Has anyone else dealt with this? Or does anyone else feel frustrated and alone and that no-one understands what they're going through?