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I have recently limited contact with family to almost nothing but I am still struggling with the guilt of this despite everything. My childhood and teenage years were neglectful, emotionally abusive and I am still the family scapegoat even in my adult years.


Discovering CPTSD has been a huge wow moment for me though and I now know there isn't something wrong with me, as such. I feel positive that I can keep growing and keep learning with all the resources available, and I am looking forward to utilising this forum as part of that healing journey.

So much love to you all fellow CPTSDers!

I am new here, too, and relate to what you wrote. It is encouraging in a way to know what this is and that there are now ways to heal and other people (too many others) are in the same boat.

Thank you, Chart. It sounds like you can relate. I'm sorry. This stuff really happened, I remind myself. It's all so bizarre on some level. 

I am 57 and am just now getting serious about healing. I didn't know I had CPTSD until about four years ago. I've been in the role of "identified patient" and scapegoat all my life and have been suffering with toxic shame for a long time.

My parents are still alive and I currently live with hidden disabilities and my mother (bad idea), which has highlighted a great need in my life for self-validation and healing, though I still am beset by worries that I am mostly tormenting myself with my own past, etc.

I was severely scapegoated about six years ago by my step-mother during a family medical crisis. That is still causing me flashbacks. The more I see how I have always been the mostly ignored "outcast" in my father's second family, who doesn't quite deserve being genuinely cared about, the more I want to detach myself from them. I'm finally feeling righteous anger by now, too.

I'm basically trying to navigate healing as these situations are complicated and I think I can only go low contact at this point.