Messages

Hi there arpy, really nice to hear from you again. 

No, I guess we are all in the same situation but it doesnt make it right does it in this day and age.

The fact is, apart from internet based groups like this who offer support and friendship, aside from the cyberworld there is absolutely nothing outside of it of tagible help, and yet there are so many organisations and charities purporting to be set up for that purpose.  My opinion is, if they do nothing then they should just go, particularly as many remain unmonitored and unregulated.

Thank you for your reply back dutch uncle. 

I am still coming to terms with the severe abuse which lasted twelve years and which caused me to lose part of my eyesight. 

What also hurts and really hinders the healing process is knowing that as the UK law stands now with the removal of our basic legal and human rights, unless one can afford to hire private legal assistance the abusers will always remain protected. 

I am not talkng about obtaining compensation either.  You cannot compensate for twelve years of repeated mental and physical abuse, but you can make certain that they perpetrators are never put back into a position to be able do this to anyone else ever again.  In my experience the UK charities we have just pass out identical internet based printed information.  And even though they are supposedly meant to tangibly help people like us and also receive government funding in order to do they rarely if ever become involved on a one to one basis so what is the point of their existence apart from providing themselves with a salary at the end of the month?

From my understanding, in order to fully recover from this illness and to move forward is being able to feel in control of your own life again and in order to do that a person cannot just be left to continue to feel helpless or ignored.

Im sure im not the only one who feels this way.

I recently had a meeting with a charity adviser who made contact with me via by the local poiice force and who I hoped by meeting up could offer me some positive help but instead he spent the entire time telling me how if he was faced with the same thing would have just run.  Left the area, his home and tried to start again, but how by my NOT running, and NOT giving in to the abusers it was basically my own fault that now I have C-PTSD. 

My partner was very angry to hear how any adviser could apportion blame to even suggest it is the abusers privilege to continue without hinderance and it is the victim who should just give in and never try to fight back.

Nevertheless after the meeting, and even with the support of my partner this left me feeling completely confused and isolated and not wanting to see or speak to anyone for the past two weeks, far less beging to trust in anyone again

Has anyone else had to experience this type of negative advice?   

Thank you arpy1

Its nice to hear a genuine welcome.   Its a feeling which I had kinda forgotten

I just wanted to say hello to all on here and explain a little bit about me.

After twelve years of suffering from extreme stress and prolonged physical and mental abuse I have have been diagnosed with something called C-PTSD.  I know very little about this condition or the numb empty feelings I now experience. My speciallist say now to think of it as starting a 'new you' but i dont want a new me, i just want to be as I used to be.  It doesnt matter what im doing i can have flashbacks and really bad reminders of what has happened and I just freeze.  When i sleep it is the same.  Emotionally now i dont really feel anything any more,  Just numb, empty inside and totally exhausted.  It is Like being on a live wire, constantly jumping at the slightest thing.

It is really not like me to feel this way, and so i have joined this group in order to find out more and chat with others who have this debilitating illness.

John

I'm really having a tough time coping with the C-PTSD and i still do not understand all of the feelings and symptoms which I am experiencing.

Three years of the immediate danger has passed but the fear and numbness i feel inside is just as real as if it were yesterday. I cannot sleep and walk the floor for hours throughout the night and at other times I can be sat just doing nothing in particular and then suddenly I'm gripped with the most indescribable fear and the most terrible flashbacks.

I had hoped that with time it would have gotten better not worse. 

Does everybody suffer like this to a lesser or greater extent?