I'm so sorry to hear about Parkinson's and your sister slipping into the influences of your family again. Parkinson's is so difficult! (our landlord and friend developed it, it's certainly something that requires support and can also cloud the mind). It sounds like we are both dealing with grief - only in very different ways. If you have more about it to write, please do; I can relate to it a lot and I'd love to be of any support or presence that I can; all I've really learned is that grief is a wild ocean tide that couldn't possibly be controlled....you just anchor yourself in and hope for the best when it hits you and then eventually passes, only to return again....having people present to understand and support is the only salve to the pain, people who don't want to solve, minimize, or take away from it. People who get it.
Hello dreamriver - boy have I been out of the loop! Just as a quick explanation (not an excuse) I was thrown off-track by series of events that came with the Covid crisis; my (grown) daughter came to live with us for a month - lots of EFs there. Then I was sick for literally the whole month of June, following a core-shaking subject in my therapy. Since then I have been on the slow recovery, physically and emotionally. So I missed responding to your (deamriver) very thoughtful response to me! I'm very moved by it - thanks!
I am saddened to hear what you have been going through, and glad to see your steps forward towards protecting yourself from FOO.
I also have not been getting notifications of posts, but found the right box to check, I hope, at the bottom of this page under Attachment and other options. I hope that will help me to keep connected, which I really believe I will benefit from. I am probably also struggling with the familiar reaction in me to distance myself, from everyone, when I am not doing well - grounded in defensive mechanisms learned early on in my life. Sorry again, for the long gap in responding. I will be glad to hear more from you
Hello dreamriver - boy have I been out of the loop! Just as a quick explanation (not an excuse) I was thrown off-track by series of events that came with the Covid crisis; my (grown) daughter came to live with us for a month - lots of EFs there. Then I was sick for literally the whole month of June, following a core-shaking subject in my therapy. Since then I have been on the slow recovery, physically and emotionally. So I missed responding to your (deamriver) very thoughtful response to me! I'm very moved by it - thanks!
I am saddened to hear what you have been going through, and glad to see your steps forward towards protecting yourself from FOO.
I also have not been getting notifications of posts, but found the right box to check, I hope, at the bottom of this page under Attachment and other options. I hope that will help me to keep connected, which I really believe I will benefit from. I am probably also struggling with the familiar reaction in me to distance myself, from everyone, when I am not doing well - grounded in defensive mechanisms learned early on in my life. Sorry again, for the long gap in responding. I will be glad to hear more from you