I've been NC with my mother and LC with my father for 8 months now. I haven't really told my son about it. But soon he's turning 7 and he expects his grandparents to come and celebrate him......We're planning a big party with lots of his friends and his grandparents on his fathers side. How do I tell him that his maternal grandparents are not invited? Any suggestion ?
I wish I did, but I don't. I feel for you. I had to explain things to my kids at 17 and 20 and that was extremely difficult for me. At that age it had to be a non detailed truth. I did post a lot about it here and had support along the way. I do know with a young kid it should start out small, something they can comprehend and then more truth as they get older.
Thanks :) The birthday party went really well. He didn't ask why they wheren't there and they didn't show up either. And yes, I have to tell him bit by bit so they can't turn him against me at a older age :)
salto, are you on our sister website OOTF at all?
Because there I read suggestions like asking the child what happens if some child is mean or aggressive to another child. Answer: child with mean behaviour gets a time-out. Then Parent explains that Grandparents have been saying mean things so they're getting a time-out.
I don't have children myself so I haven't tried and don't know if it works.
:thumbup: :thumbup: on good birthday party for your son.