Out of the Storm

Development of CPTSD in Adulthood => Causes => General Discussion => Topic started by: jamesG.1 on September 16, 2019, 11:45:26 AM

Title: the curve
Post by: jamesG.1 on September 16, 2019, 11:45:26 AM
so... things were finally sorting out for me,,, then I get a message.

My ex has been found dead after falling down stairs.

I have no words
Title: Re: the curve
Post by: SharpAndBlunt on September 16, 2019, 12:59:13 PM
James, so sorry to hear of your loss. Please try and take care of yourself. Sending you my deepest condolences.
Title: Re: the curve
Post by: Snowdrop on September 16, 2019, 01:24:58 PM
Oh no. I'm so sorry.
Title: Re: the curve
Post by: Three Roses on September 16, 2019, 05:19:13 PM
James, I'm so very sorry to hear this! What a shock! Please take care of yourself  :hug:
Title: Re: the curve
Post by: Kizzie on September 16, 2019, 06:31:06 PM
So very sorry to hear this James  :grouphug:
Title: Re: the curve
Post by: jamesG.1 on September 17, 2019, 03:17:54 PM
98% of people I know have raced to tell me it wasn't my fault. I did my best to stop the alcoholism but failed.

2%....

Nothing will ever come close to watching someone you love falling to pieces and having zero power to intervene and save both of your lives, but the closest is that 2% of grandstanders who assume that you played a part. 4 years after I left I am still a traincrash.

"balanced" apparently. Try living through what I lived through and tell me about balance.

And yes, she was a lovely person, but she left me before I left her. And yes, I'm angry at her for dying.
Title: Re: the curve
Post by: Kizzie on September 17, 2019, 06:52:34 PM
 :grouphug:  Hoping talking here and being heard and supported will help James.
Title: Re: the curve
Post by: Blueberry on September 17, 2019, 07:29:10 PM
I'm sorry James.  :grouphug: Thinking of you.   
Title: Re: the curve
Post by: Not Alone on September 29, 2019, 02:31:05 AM
James, I am sorry to hear about your loss.