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Title: Just found OOTS
Post by: Sadie48 on June 04, 2018, 10:49:05 AM
Hi. I was searching complex ptsd, which I was diagnosed with years ago, when I found this website. I had read OOF years ago and found it helpful, but mainly in understanding the PDs within my family, not in understanding how to deal with them.  Peter Walker's website also included information -- a description of a patient's symptoms -- that I recognized immediately.

I went NC with my mother and older sister very recently after finding out about some malicious gossip that had been spread about my nuclear family (husband,kids). It feels weird but the only way I could say "enough".  I had also gotten depressed and foggy after my mother visited, and her presence reminded me of so many things I have long hated about being around her.  It took me hours to feel normal again.

Thanks for existing!  It's difficult to feel like anyone but a therapist or group therapy can recognize what having an emotionally abusive family is like. The abuse is often hidden, so when it is called out, it's easy for the PDed person to deny.  But I do believe in our guts, we know when something is not right.  I may lurk for a while, or post about going NC. Nice to meet you.
Title: Re: Just found OOTS
Post by: Estella on June 04, 2018, 10:57:06 AM
Nice to meet you Sadie  :)
Title: Re: Just found OOTS
Post by: sanmagic7 on June 04, 2018, 03:46:17 PM
glad you're here, sadie, and welcome.

this forum has been a life-changer for me.  generous, kind, caring people who 'get it'.   i've been able to do a lot of healing because of it.  the two therapists i've had over the past 3 yrs.  haven't helped me nearly as much. 

lurk when you want, post when you're ready.  we'll be here for you.   sending a hug if it's ok with you.
Title: Re: Just found OOTS
Post by: Kizzie on June 04, 2018, 05:28:34 PM
Hey Sadie, welcome to OOTS  :heythere:   Kindred soul here as I was raised in a family rife with NPD and it took a final straw for me to finally disengage.  Best thing I ever did although it was hard at first because those with NPD are tenacious about getting their N supply and when they can't anymore, look out.  Also, it's family and it shouldn't be easy to cut ties when you think about it.  It's just a huge loss no matter.

Anyway, I do hope you post when you feel comfortable as there are lots of members here who suffered more covert forms of emotional abuse (not so covert when you know what you're looking at though - in the end it's just crazy making, soul crushing behaviour the same as more overt abuse imo).
Title: Re: Just found OOTS
Post by: Sadie48 on June 04, 2018, 09:57:55 PM
Thank you all.  I think I will post more on the section about cutting off contact since that was a recent step.  Hope to give and receive on this site.
Title: Re: Just found OOTS
Post by: Blueberry on June 05, 2018, 01:00:47 AM
Quote from: Sadie48 on June 04, 2018, 10:49:05 AM
Thanks for existing!  It's difficult to feel like anyone but a therapist or group therapy can recognize what having an emotionally abusive family is like.

We recognise it on here  :yes: I come from a severely emotionally abusive FOO. I agree it's often hard to explain to somebody who doesn't understand. In fact, it's usually really re-triggering for me to do so because those sorts of people ask all the 'dumb' questions FOO does or cross-questions me like a lawyer  :aaauuugh:

Welcome on here!  :heythere: I answered your other (NC) post in more detail.