Today I stumbled on this Wikipedia article.
These are moments I'm especially surprised how much of what I (we, presumably) have experienced is actually so readily accessible for all to see.
Really... Wikipedia? How much more 'open source' can it get?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cycle_of_abuse
edit: I should give credit where credit is due: this article http://www.traumahealed.com/articles/apologies-good-bad-and-abusive.html gave me the link to the Wikipedia-page.