I guess it's a two-way street. I know where I stand. Can't really say 'the other side' are 'wrong' though. "To each their own.", no?
I just liked to share a pic of today's time's. Mindfulness and all that.
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Show posts MenuQuote from: Dutch Uncle on August 12, 2016, 10:29:52 AManother process-server/bailiff ringed, and as I was walking down the stairs he was already pushing the envelope through the letter box. I nevertheless opened the door, and we actually had a talk, where I spilled my beans! Told him I was a victim of childhood abuse. He was genuinely interested, validated me for getting this far without (professional) psychological help, gave me tips on how at least avoid some costs like: "show up at least, even if you can't pay, tell the story, for at least you will be spared court costs."
Quote from: Dutch Uncle on February 17, 2016, 11:48:09 AMI stumbled on my SCID-II results today, and one of the (BPD) traits/fleas I have is:Which is why I have joined the Book Club threads on dissociation.
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms.
So working through this book is definitely a good choice in my path of recovery.
For clarity sake: I exhibit two of the eight 'traits', threshold for BPD is at least 4/8. Plus than some other criteria, but all that is completely off-topic.
Quote from: Boon et al's "Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation"One way to start communication is to find common ground i.e. it's likely that all parts want to get better. Usually all parts can agree with this goal even though they are not likely to agree on how to achieve it in the beginning.and me and all my parts (a.k.a. "we" ) agreed this was a good step to make. What it would bring is a great unknown, but I need to find help, we can not do it without third parties who are willing and able to aid us.
Inner Strength | Inner Critic | |||
- Eating and Cooking well. Food I like, yet taking into account nutrition as well. But primary: what would I like to eat today, not have to or mustn't. | - "you are not eating well enough, you'll die on this diet." Origin: Mom. "Are you eating well enough?" "Think of the poor starving kids in Africa!" "You're loosing weight." "You're gaining weight." "I don't like what you cooked" (I did cook for my parents for a while) Other IC-"leading questions": Is it not too fat? Is it not too sugary? Is it from an organic farm? Is the meat OK? Is it not processed? Is it enough veggies? | |||
- House Cleaner. Not everything has to be clean at all times, the same time, but as long as I clean most things once a week, it's fine. | - "That way there will always be dirty stuff somewhere!" An imprint of somebody else's Inner Child, namely my mom's who had a (s)mother who would pass with her finger on every surface out of sight to see if it was clean at my mom's appartment. | |||
- Loving music, playing it regularly and finding more I like | - "This music isn't good enough." My father hated us children playing music. He hardly ever played music himself. I was forced to study music (the flute) and hated it. Later, in puberty, I had friends who where into music, but it had to be really complex/difficult. It took time to learn to appreciate it (for which I'm still thankful) but I have always been insecure. Until I went with one of these friends to the North Sea Jazz Festival, and we saw an unknown band that played out-of-sinc. Naturally I though this was part of the intricate-complex music (so I had to appreciate it, my IC said), when this friend burst out in laughter and said: "these guys are stoned, LOL! They miss every beat. This is ridiculous, LOL. I can't listen to this any longer." With a sigh of relief I left. Since then I'm less 'uptight'. |
Quote from: Boon et al's "Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation" on August 29, 2016, 01:49:18 PM
One way to start communication is to find common ground i.e. it's likely that all parts want to get better. Usually all parts can agree with this goal even though they are not likely to agree on how to achieve it in the beginning.
You may begin communication by agreeing how to spend leisure time or how best to complete chores. It may take some time to communicate with all parts as they must feel safe enough to communicate.
QuoteI was diagnosed with situs inversus totalis at six months old. Often, recorded signs of a reversed anatomy are dismissed as an error of the x-ray technician, the left and right labels supposedly mixed-up. It was only when I was taken to hospital with unrelated breathing problems that doctors began to consider the possibility that I had situs inversus. "Sit down and listen to everything I tell you", the doctor told my parents, who, even after listening intently, were left in a state of disbelief. Several medical staff hurried into the room, excited. Medics may only come across one case of situs inversus in their careers, and I was later invited to take part in a Guess What's Wrong With The Baby trainee doctor event.(text formatting mine)