Arpy1 wrote:
"...at the risk of sounding totally neurotic, i just wondered if this is 'normal' or what. i don't like feeling this way, but then i don't like feeling all traumatised either. i feel a bit insecure..."
Even "normal" people (non-cptsd sorts) can be totally neurotic, they just are better at covering it over, not aware--they'd never call it numbing, but it's exactly what it is. We have their missing awareness, though, and it's good to know, but scary to realize the "why". Meanwhile, the pain spins round and round .
Good to be aware, not so great to know something others are successful at just ignoring within their "normal" mask. And it's very INSECURE. But that's true no matter what state we're in. Being incredibly wealthy is considered a security goal. Those who've been there can be neurotic beyond reason. Yet they're considered secure, and normal?
There's this rush to perfection, once we see the new, freer vista. And it's cool that we are learning to see the clouds scatter and reveal the bright sky. But as we look up, we realize it's a mountain looming before us, and we've already been climbing so hard.
I've been on that mountainside and have frequently despaired; and often "numbed out" but have seen the other side, too. It's a huge step in our un-learning process, when we shed the burdens placed on us from other people. There's time for numbness, and there'll be time for reawakening. Patience seems insecure, but it's a core part of the process.
As Oakridge pointed out, it's natural (I like "natural" better than "normal") to become fatigued, overwhelmed, confused, and incredibly numb. Patience, though. You lose sight of your strength to absorb all of this--but we see it in your willingness to stop and reassess. That takes more oomph than lots of "normal" sorts could muster.
It's a lot to figure and you've already un-learned so much. Some of it is very distressing, but you're still at it. That probably sounds cliche, but it's anything but. As you may recall, I too had this holy stuff drilled into me. But I remember one phrase from that den of horrors I actually ended up liking--"there is a time to every season..."
"...at the risk of sounding totally neurotic, i just wondered if this is 'normal' or what. i don't like feeling this way, but then i don't like feeling all traumatised either. i feel a bit insecure..."
Even "normal" people (non-cptsd sorts) can be totally neurotic, they just are better at covering it over, not aware--they'd never call it numbing, but it's exactly what it is. We have their missing awareness, though, and it's good to know, but scary to realize the "why". Meanwhile, the pain spins round and round .
Good to be aware, not so great to know something others are successful at just ignoring within their "normal" mask. And it's very INSECURE. But that's true no matter what state we're in. Being incredibly wealthy is considered a security goal. Those who've been there can be neurotic beyond reason. Yet they're considered secure, and normal?
There's this rush to perfection, once we see the new, freer vista. And it's cool that we are learning to see the clouds scatter and reveal the bright sky. But as we look up, we realize it's a mountain looming before us, and we've already been climbing so hard.
I've been on that mountainside and have frequently despaired; and often "numbed out" but have seen the other side, too. It's a huge step in our un-learning process, when we shed the burdens placed on us from other people. There's time for numbness, and there'll be time for reawakening. Patience seems insecure, but it's a core part of the process.
As Oakridge pointed out, it's natural (I like "natural" better than "normal") to become fatigued, overwhelmed, confused, and incredibly numb. Patience, though. You lose sight of your strength to absorb all of this--but we see it in your willingness to stop and reassess. That takes more oomph than lots of "normal" sorts could muster.
It's a lot to figure and you've already un-learned so much. Some of it is very distressing, but you're still at it. That probably sounds cliche, but it's anything but. As you may recall, I too had this holy stuff drilled into me. But I remember one phrase from that den of horrors I actually ended up liking--"there is a time to every season..."