Hi everyone,
I've been using this forum a little bit now but am a little anxious that I don't do it quite right. I'm trying to reach out, though. I'm feeling quite lonely. I've related to other posts in this topic about the pain of needing connection with others but not knowing how to make it safe or workable. Being in relationships always seems to involve lots of problems and pain, but not being in relationships seems to make everything else in my life worse—I'm not that healthy when I'm alone.
I realize this is a major conundrum for many of us with cptsd and attachment disorder (as addressed skillfully elsewhere in this topic), and there may be no real answers other than the daily work of recovery and self-compassion and -forgiveness.
I do get a lot out of just knowing that I can tell the truth here and other people will understand, accept it, and be kind. That's a big deal. And it is good medicine for me to be able to tell the truth somewhere; to verbally ventilate and grieve, which helps me move through the feelings and do some deep healing at the same time.
So partly, for me, just this is the answer. I'm also curious, though, what other people have found helpful, in those moments when they're feeling alone and scared, and wish they had warm connection to someone but don't, and don't know how to build it right now? What do you do that helps you?
Thanks
I've been using this forum a little bit now but am a little anxious that I don't do it quite right. I'm trying to reach out, though. I'm feeling quite lonely. I've related to other posts in this topic about the pain of needing connection with others but not knowing how to make it safe or workable. Being in relationships always seems to involve lots of problems and pain, but not being in relationships seems to make everything else in my life worse—I'm not that healthy when I'm alone.
I realize this is a major conundrum for many of us with cptsd and attachment disorder (as addressed skillfully elsewhere in this topic), and there may be no real answers other than the daily work of recovery and self-compassion and -forgiveness.
I do get a lot out of just knowing that I can tell the truth here and other people will understand, accept it, and be kind. That's a big deal. And it is good medicine for me to be able to tell the truth somewhere; to verbally ventilate and grieve, which helps me move through the feelings and do some deep healing at the same time.
So partly, for me, just this is the answer. I'm also curious, though, what other people have found helpful, in those moments when they're feeling alone and scared, and wish they had warm connection to someone but don't, and don't know how to build it right now? What do you do that helps you?
Thanks