Normally, I'm fairly isolated and only around my family but when I do happen to leave the house I tend to not notice people at all unless they speak to me or I have to interact with them in some way. Individually, I can handle strangers but if there is a crowd my hypervigilance and anxiety is nearly unbearable, making me much too aware of everything and everyone.
I went to heavy metal concert a couple of weeks ago at the behest of an old friend and it took a lot of nerve for me to walk in there alone. There was a huge crowd of people, the music was so loud that it seemed that I could feel the vibrations in the air and thumping on my chest like a hand. It was a small club so I had to be in close proximity to about 200 strangers and it felt like I was having a constant low-level panic attack the entire time. I was shaking like a leaf because I felt like people were staring and when I realized that some of them actually were it took everything I had not to just walk out of there. I caught eyes with several rough looking fellows and when one of them approached me to ask me something it got worse.
But I just stood with my back against the wall and I kept playing with this rubber band on my wrist to kind of work some of the stress out. My friend took about an hour to show up and it was a great relief to see her but she had this entire entourage of friends with her that I didn't know and interacting with them was hard too.
We went out to the smoking area to talk but it wasn't any better. There were so many people and they were all looking at me at the same time whenever I spoke so I didn't really say much. One guy touched my arm to get my attention once and I almost jumped out of my skin. I just kept fidgeting with that rubber band and chewing gum but I didn't do a good job of hiding my nervousness at all. Everyone kept looking at me and asking me questions and I could feel the tension in my neck and shoulders getting worse and worse. For four hours I was on high alert and it was absolutely exhausting.
It was really good to see my friend but I was unable to really pay much attention to her because I was paying far too much attention to everything that felt unfamiliar and unsafe. I wish I could've relaxed and maybe even enjoyed myself but even drinking a little couldn't take the edge off. When it was time to go I told my friend goodbye and pretty much ran off the street to get the * away from what felt like a million prying eyes.
That night was hard but I actually did better than I have in the past in similar situations. I didn't have a huge freak out moment and I even spoke to people and looked them in the eyes. In the end I'm glad I went because I showed myself that I could do what seemed like the impossible.
I went to heavy metal concert a couple of weeks ago at the behest of an old friend and it took a lot of nerve for me to walk in there alone. There was a huge crowd of people, the music was so loud that it seemed that I could feel the vibrations in the air and thumping on my chest like a hand. It was a small club so I had to be in close proximity to about 200 strangers and it felt like I was having a constant low-level panic attack the entire time. I was shaking like a leaf because I felt like people were staring and when I realized that some of them actually were it took everything I had not to just walk out of there. I caught eyes with several rough looking fellows and when one of them approached me to ask me something it got worse.
But I just stood with my back against the wall and I kept playing with this rubber band on my wrist to kind of work some of the stress out. My friend took about an hour to show up and it was a great relief to see her but she had this entire entourage of friends with her that I didn't know and interacting with them was hard too.
We went out to the smoking area to talk but it wasn't any better. There were so many people and they were all looking at me at the same time whenever I spoke so I didn't really say much. One guy touched my arm to get my attention once and I almost jumped out of my skin. I just kept fidgeting with that rubber band and chewing gum but I didn't do a good job of hiding my nervousness at all. Everyone kept looking at me and asking me questions and I could feel the tension in my neck and shoulders getting worse and worse. For four hours I was on high alert and it was absolutely exhausting.
It was really good to see my friend but I was unable to really pay much attention to her because I was paying far too much attention to everything that felt unfamiliar and unsafe. I wish I could've relaxed and maybe even enjoyed myself but even drinking a little couldn't take the edge off. When it was time to go I told my friend goodbye and pretty much ran off the street to get the * away from what felt like a million prying eyes.
That night was hard but I actually did better than I have in the past in similar situations. I didn't have a huge freak out moment and I even spoke to people and looked them in the eyes. In the end I'm glad I went because I showed myself that I could do what seemed like the impossible.