Hi!
I am trying to go with the "higher power" thing, though the depression in me consider life to be pointless and hope that there is no afterlife so that I don't have to live again when I die.
To believe in something higher is to believe in a meaning that I don't fully understand because I'm merely human but even though I used to be quite spiritual I find myself detaching from that part of me.
It's kind of sad really but even though most people around me are atheists my mother has always been spiritual and brought a lot of magical thinking and escaping responsibility to the table.
I think she felt that most things in life are driven by forces beyond our control but if you have magic and buy the right stuff then the stars might align in our favour (until the satisfaction of placebo wears off).
I just went through Pia Mellodys youtube clips about codependence and boundaries and realized I do have a problem with boundaries still.
When I feel bad enough it's like I can't contain my attraction towards someone else and thereby I disappoint myself.
Somewhere in me there is a sensitive me that doesn't trust the one I am now, therefore I am not able to feel all of my true feelings.
They will be kept hidden until I learn how to make sensible decisions for myself that doesn't involve throwing myself out there in to the next feeling that shows up.
I think I would call that sort of behaviour self abuse, to just let go and not care where you "wake up" as long as you can forget who you are for a moment. It reminds me of the way a drug addict wanders through life from one fix to the next.
I am trying to go with the "higher power" thing, though the depression in me consider life to be pointless and hope that there is no afterlife so that I don't have to live again when I die.
To believe in something higher is to believe in a meaning that I don't fully understand because I'm merely human but even though I used to be quite spiritual I find myself detaching from that part of me.
It's kind of sad really but even though most people around me are atheists my mother has always been spiritual and brought a lot of magical thinking and escaping responsibility to the table.
I think she felt that most things in life are driven by forces beyond our control but if you have magic and buy the right stuff then the stars might align in our favour (until the satisfaction of placebo wears off).
I just went through Pia Mellodys youtube clips about codependence and boundaries and realized I do have a problem with boundaries still.
When I feel bad enough it's like I can't contain my attraction towards someone else and thereby I disappoint myself.
Somewhere in me there is a sensitive me that doesn't trust the one I am now, therefore I am not able to feel all of my true feelings.
They will be kept hidden until I learn how to make sensible decisions for myself that doesn't involve throwing myself out there in to the next feeling that shows up.
I think I would call that sort of behaviour self abuse, to just let go and not care where you "wake up" as long as you can forget who you are for a moment. It reminds me of the way a drug addict wanders through life from one fix to the next.