Quote from: NarcKiddo on May 14, 2024, 05:16:45 PMYou know, I sometimes think that nothing actually sinks in with these people. If they are told something that does not agree with their narrative they are quite capable of simply pretending it isn't so. Even if they have kicked up a fuss initially, somehow the whole thing just fades back into their own little world view. They just stick their fingers in their ears and sing "la la la".
Exactly! And once we figure that out we don't twist ourselves like pretzels anymore because nothing works, except gray rock or no contact. They (N's) are well and truly broken.
I don't see them as being born evil per se, rather I see most of them as ending up hurting/manipulating/gaslighting/demeaning/etc., others because they suffered so much trauma it caused NPD. I don't excuse/forgive them, but it helps to understand why they are the way they are. For me it makes it all that much more important that every effort is made to ensure all children are loved and safe and nurtured. Idealistic I know but at least we can aspire to this.