Hello to all. I have a query...
I understand how to do 'Medium Chill' (MC). What I dont get is what the AIM of it is. Let me explain...
Is it more for use as a temporary tool when someone/abusive FOO are being awful and physical contact with them cant be avoided, say, at Christmas or birthday gatherings? Is it a long term tool to be used for every time you see someone who is problematic? So, in other words, as a shield, of sorts?
Or is the aim more to hope the person will eventually stop being the way that is so upsetting? Either because in 5 minutes they are likely to be calmer (as they may be someone who tends to blow hot and cold), or because they may realise they are being too difficult and get the message? Or even that the person may eventually realise, say, over months, that their behaviour is too difficult?
Another way I can put this is to ask; Is it a long term solution for constant use with someone who is constantly difficult whenever one has to see them? Or is it more short term, for moments with someone who is occasionally difficult? I cant help being confused because, if someone is constantly difficult every time, then wouldnt going no contact be more appropriate?
I ask as I have read the dedicated page on this site about this subject, but wanted to ask more if thats okay.
I appreciate this might not be the right place to post this-if so I apologise if thats the case, and welcome guidance on where it should be placed, or it being moved automatically.
Anyway-all input is very welcome on this topic.
I understand how to do 'Medium Chill' (MC). What I dont get is what the AIM of it is. Let me explain...
Is it more for use as a temporary tool when someone/abusive FOO are being awful and physical contact with them cant be avoided, say, at Christmas or birthday gatherings? Is it a long term tool to be used for every time you see someone who is problematic? So, in other words, as a shield, of sorts?
Or is the aim more to hope the person will eventually stop being the way that is so upsetting? Either because in 5 minutes they are likely to be calmer (as they may be someone who tends to blow hot and cold), or because they may realise they are being too difficult and get the message? Or even that the person may eventually realise, say, over months, that their behaviour is too difficult?
Another way I can put this is to ask; Is it a long term solution for constant use with someone who is constantly difficult whenever one has to see them? Or is it more short term, for moments with someone who is occasionally difficult? I cant help being confused because, if someone is constantly difficult every time, then wouldnt going no contact be more appropriate?
I ask as I have read the dedicated page on this site about this subject, but wanted to ask more if thats okay.
I appreciate this might not be the right place to post this-if so I apologise if thats the case, and welcome guidance on where it should be placed, or it being moved automatically.
Anyway-all input is very welcome on this topic.