Verbal Ventilation. A requirement for healing?
I am wondering of I really need VV with a professional to get past this mpst recent epiphany about who I am; what made me this way.
There's no doubt it would certainly be helpful. A (hopefully) safe space for getting it all out there; for getting another perspective to feelings I cannot find my way around.
But if I insist to myself that I need that, I if I cannot access it, then that leaves me in even more of a stress than before!
So somehow I need to hope that I get the funding (one month and still waiting to hear), whilst still somehow moving forward without help, and fully expect to continue moving forward without professional help.
Im not quite sure how to achieve this, other than letting go of the expectation of support and moving forward from that point.
Will I get the pro support? Maybe, who knows. So what can I do in the meantime?
I can continue trying to get enough sleep! (I have strategies!).
When I have had enough sleep the triggers are less (reactivity is less) and the EFs less and the acting out into freeze or dissociation is less. When all these things align, I have more pleasant experience of everyday life (i think thats probably true for everyone with the sleep!). I feel more confident. Intrusive (unconsciously generated) thoughts are less. The bpdy is calm. The breath is still. I am free to love and contribute.
So what happens if I cann ot get enough sleep? Well certainly past experience would say that I will be on the edge of my own personal *. On the edge of running away (flight) from my own life and responsibilities. On the edge of coping. On the edge of contributing or not.
It is at these no (less) sleep times, that I wonder if happiness is even really a thing. Thats how much the mind can twist into shapes of feeling and contort to narrow possibilites of pain and discomfort.
I start to panic at these times. I panic about how will I ever get enough sleep? As health feels like it is unravelling, i barely sustain work. If I cant sustain work then how will I ever get my own place. If I cant do that then I will always have to suffer (!) the comings and goings of others. So then I imagine a future of no sleep. Its amazing where the mind goes, given a chance, it will lead down a dark path!!!
Have a stretch, go to bed, wear your ear plugs, pray for sleep.
I am wondering of I really need VV with a professional to get past this mpst recent epiphany about who I am; what made me this way.
There's no doubt it would certainly be helpful. A (hopefully) safe space for getting it all out there; for getting another perspective to feelings I cannot find my way around.
But if I insist to myself that I need that, I if I cannot access it, then that leaves me in even more of a stress than before!
So somehow I need to hope that I get the funding (one month and still waiting to hear), whilst still somehow moving forward without help, and fully expect to continue moving forward without professional help.
Im not quite sure how to achieve this, other than letting go of the expectation of support and moving forward from that point.
Will I get the pro support? Maybe, who knows. So what can I do in the meantime?
I can continue trying to get enough sleep! (I have strategies!).
When I have had enough sleep the triggers are less (reactivity is less) and the EFs less and the acting out into freeze or dissociation is less. When all these things align, I have more pleasant experience of everyday life (i think thats probably true for everyone with the sleep!). I feel more confident. Intrusive (unconsciously generated) thoughts are less. The bpdy is calm. The breath is still. I am free to love and contribute.
So what happens if I cann ot get enough sleep? Well certainly past experience would say that I will be on the edge of my own personal *. On the edge of running away (flight) from my own life and responsibilities. On the edge of coping. On the edge of contributing or not.
It is at these no (less) sleep times, that I wonder if happiness is even really a thing. Thats how much the mind can twist into shapes of feeling and contort to narrow possibilites of pain and discomfort.
I start to panic at these times. I panic about how will I ever get enough sleep? As health feels like it is unravelling, i barely sustain work. If I cant sustain work then how will I ever get my own place. If I cant do that then I will always have to suffer (!) the comings and goings of others. So then I imagine a future of no sleep. Its amazing where the mind goes, given a chance, it will lead down a dark path!!!
Have a stretch, go to bed, wear your ear plugs, pray for sleep.