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Hello everyone! Thank You for your warm welcomes, I hope to hear from you more as I progress in my journey in recovery!
Thank you for your book suggestion erebor, I will have to take a look! My Italian family is more overbearing than anything else... I know they have whats best for me always in mind... but sometimes they don't realize that I don't need to be told what I'm doing wrong, and I need a little recognition for doing something good... It probably would have done wonders for my self esteem!
And Gromit, No judgement about the friends... I probably have about 3 good friends and I don't talk to any of them very frequently.

ruby,
Nice to meet you! I'm definately in the same boat as you! I have parents that are extremely caring but overprotective! I was not even allowed over anyone elses houses until I turned about 16, which can definately change someone's socialization skills. Moving out on your own will do wonders for you! It might be scary at first, I won't lie, but you develop so much as a person that you will feel refreshed even on your worst of days! Glad you have your siblings to talk to as well if you are having a bad day!

Welcome to the forum! Hope to hear from you some more!

Motherof2meowzers,
This forum caught my eye because before CPTSD was initially brought up to me, someone had diagnosed me with Social anxiety- That being said I have alot of tips on what was able to help me through anxiety!

For one- It makes it easier on me when I talk to someone I am more comfortable with fairly frequently- a partner, best friend, co-worker you are close to- just someone that you can keep the conversation going about meaningless topics. Even though it isn't always going to be a meaningful conversation, it has always given me the extra boost of positivity in myself that I can actually hold a conversation.

Also, if you have problems finding someone to do that with, it helps to start conversations with strangers about things that can be relatable- If you are at the grocery store- talk about how fresh the lettuce is or how the weather looks so nice out... that also gives me a boost of energy when I need it,and worst case scenario if they walk away you don't need to keep the conversation going because you don't know the person.

The same idea goes for your co-workers though, get comfortable talking about something you can relate on- a client you have per se or some paperwork you did together and maybe you will get more comfortable from there!

Once you feel good about talking with a few people- it only gets easier from there!

Hey there, I wanted to go ahead and introduce myself a bit. I am 25 years old, and I have been jumping from counselor to counselor since I was about 16. It wasn't until this past year that a counselor suggested C-PTSD to me, and I just felt like the description just resonated with me as exactly what I was feeling. My family is a very old school Italian family that moved to the US years ago, but they still have a lot of old school beliefs that they tried incorporating into when they raised me. I guess you could say that my family loved the idea of me more than who I actually was as a person... because I didn't even know who that person was until I moved out(so how could they?).

I would say my problems mostly stemmed from my family never being happy with me when I was a child primarily-
Secondary- I would say my problems also stemmed from childhood neglect from both my family and friends... the only time anyone needed me was when they needed help... but I didn't get to play games with anyone or experience friendships like alot of other children my age.

I am just now coming to the terms with the fact that I am extremely emotionally stunted because I have had friends and relationships, and I have not been able to connect on an emotional level like a lot of other people my age do. I want to learn to deal with that better, and get advice from people who know what its like to have a family that was never emotional with them growing up!

Anyway, I look forward to talking to all of you! I am extremely excited to get to know people who genuinely understand what I am going through! Nice to meet you!