Thank you all so much. I think I have been frozen lately overall, which creates even more freeze when these little opportunities to share my feelings comes up. Oddly, I have been really good about realizing that most of what everyone says and does is all about them. I do believe that and have been able to internalize it more this past year. I remind myself of this often.
Even while feeling that, I still start to feel like it's odd that it's like these people and comments attract to me when we're alone. I wonder if that happens to everyone else as well. I tend to think they would never say that to XY or Z person. There is something about me that makes them feel comfortable to say it even when they don't even know me. Like yes, it is all about them, they obviously need to get some sort of frustration out and oh look there looks like an easy target to ambush.
This is really not an area where I shine. Especially with my landlord. I feel like if I say anything, I will be kicked out and homeless. Same with my boss. I feel very stuck and fearful that if I lose my job or my current home, I will be homeless. Over the years I have tried offering to help, gentle reminders about things that need doing. They never get done and I know they will never get done now. So I start looking for places to live and everything is hundreds of dollars more than what I pay here.
But it helps to hear you guys reinforcing reminders. Kizzie your role-play conversations sound very reasonable and kind. I don't know why this is so hard for me.
Even while feeling that, I still start to feel like it's odd that it's like these people and comments attract to me when we're alone. I wonder if that happens to everyone else as well. I tend to think they would never say that to XY or Z person. There is something about me that makes them feel comfortable to say it even when they don't even know me. Like yes, it is all about them, they obviously need to get some sort of frustration out and oh look there looks like an easy target to ambush.
This is really not an area where I shine. Especially with my landlord. I feel like if I say anything, I will be kicked out and homeless. Same with my boss. I feel very stuck and fearful that if I lose my job or my current home, I will be homeless. Over the years I have tried offering to help, gentle reminders about things that need doing. They never get done and I know they will never get done now. So I start looking for places to live and everything is hundreds of dollars more than what I pay here.
But it helps to hear you guys reinforcing reminders. Kizzie your role-play conversations sound very reasonable and kind. I don't know why this is so hard for me.