I seem to have reached the 'anger phase' in my healing journey. I find I dip in and out of anger when things are going well and I'm being well supported, maybe because it allows me to feel I am valid in my own right, and my needs are valid that it brings up past memories where I was NOT ALLOWED to have negative reactions at all. My mum and eldest sister in particular would rile me up SO MUCH and be so nasty and/or inappropriate and push me and push me - its like they would push me to get angry and then react with either outright fury or silent fury or an infuriating 'sssshhhhh! Look at you getting all riled up, forget I even brought it up! sssh' (my mum LOVED to do this). She'd say deliberate inflammatory remarks then I'd get angry and I just remember her smirk, she enjoyed the whole thing so much. My god, remembering this now makes me so mad. I've been no contact for a while and honestly, maybe I sound awful, but remembering all the frustrating ways in which she would deliberately invoke reactions in us makes me so mad, I begin to feel vengeful and just like....who does she think she is?! I hate narcissism, NPD is so vile, it makes me so mad thinking of all the things they enjoy doing to people that involves hurting others!
Anyone else experienced feeling this angry? I've seen on various sites that getting angry is a good thing..a sign that i am feeling mu rights and worth and identifying with the ways in which i was wronged and having this response towards that. I just don't know what to DO with this seemingly delayed anger. I mean, it was always there when the incidents first happend, but I had to suppress and contain my anger rigidly at the time to survive and now its popping up out of context and away from the abusive people - where am i supposed to direct it at? and HOW do i process it??
Anyone else experienced feeling this angry? I've seen on various sites that getting angry is a good thing..a sign that i am feeling mu rights and worth and identifying with the ways in which i was wronged and having this response towards that. I just don't know what to DO with this seemingly delayed anger. I mean, it was always there when the incidents first happend, but I had to suppress and contain my anger rigidly at the time to survive and now its popping up out of context and away from the abusive people - where am i supposed to direct it at? and HOW do i process it??