Hello everyone,
I have started a relationship with a 28 year old man with severe CPTSD. His parents were both alcoholics and there was some neglect and physical abuse from his father. He learned to fight (martial arts) at age 8 encouraged by his father.
When he was 14 years old and his brother was 16 years old they witnessed their father shoot and kill their mother. My boyfriend fought his father for the gun as he was going to kill his entire family. He eventually got him down and his father ended up shooting and killing himself in the head. My boyfriend is very angry with his older brother for freezing and not helping. He blames himself for not being able to stop his father from killing his mother.
He is so angry and sad. He misses his mother so much. He sleeps with his teddy bear. This is his only reminder of her. He has not found the proper help and does not want it. He is a raging alcoholic and carries a gun (he has a permit) everywhere. He is paranoid about everything and hates to go anywhere. He even thinks I might try to kill him when he sleeps. He has told me about the incident several times and has cried and got angry self harming by punching himself in the face.
We hold each other all the time we are together. He is just a scared little boy. I want to love and protect him. What can I do or say to really help him? I love him so much.
I have started a relationship with a 28 year old man with severe CPTSD. His parents were both alcoholics and there was some neglect and physical abuse from his father. He learned to fight (martial arts) at age 8 encouraged by his father.
When he was 14 years old and his brother was 16 years old they witnessed their father shoot and kill their mother. My boyfriend fought his father for the gun as he was going to kill his entire family. He eventually got him down and his father ended up shooting and killing himself in the head. My boyfriend is very angry with his older brother for freezing and not helping. He blames himself for not being able to stop his father from killing his mother.
He is so angry and sad. He misses his mother so much. He sleeps with his teddy bear. This is his only reminder of her. He has not found the proper help and does not want it. He is a raging alcoholic and carries a gun (he has a permit) everywhere. He is paranoid about everything and hates to go anywhere. He even thinks I might try to kill him when he sleeps. He has told me about the incident several times and has cried and got angry self harming by punching himself in the face.
We hold each other all the time we are together. He is just a scared little boy. I want to love and protect him. What can I do or say to really help him? I love him so much.