Quote from: Libby183 on December 14, 2018, 09:49:43 AM
Hi, the truth.
I'm sorry to hear that you have hit a bad patch, so to speak. It seems to be a strong feature of CPTSD, this up and down pattern. You mentioned a trigger, so Blueberry makes a very good point that you may be in an EF. Do you have approaches to help with these? Just remind yourself that they do end, things will get better again.
With regards to your specific question about CPTSD, my answer /opinion is that you do. In a way, all diagnoses that we talk about on OOTS are just social constructs, a sort of framework for communication and understanding. The fact that we come here and feel understood is what matters.
It has become something of a hobby horse to me, and still feels risky to say it, but I honestly don't believe that doctors and the NHS are there to help us. They serve a purpose for society (and get handsomely rewarded financially and with high regard and status) in return. I don't believe that society wants to face up to the existence of CPTSD. After all, society sanctioned my abuse by my parents and I grew into a person who was terrified of stepping out of line, who went into nursing, to repay my debt to society, for educating me and giving me healthcare etc. Eventually, society would expect me to care for my ageing parents. Sadly for society, my parents went too far and I cracked.
Consequently, I am no use any more. I don't work and don't care for my parents! It sounds quite crackpot, but I am actually finding it quite freeing. I've been where you are, desparate for help and answers. I have found my truth, for now, and am doing much better than before. Some degree of relief is what I am hoping for, for you. It takes a lot of time, but I believe you will get there.
Happy, as ever, to talk about things.
Take care.
Libby
Hi Libby,
I agree fully with your statement that society doesnt want to face up to the existence of Cptsd. My employer, my doctor and my family have all reacted with a similarly discompassionate disinterest. All they need to know is that I had a history of depressive episodes. Thats good enough for them. It allows my employer to misrespresent the stress they caused me as personal frailty, it allows my doctor the freedom to invalidate my suggestion that the stress was a result of human rights abuses in the workplace and it allows my family to content themselves with the analysis that a history peppered with mental health issues explains the difficulty I had in that job, and that means they dont have to go to the trouble of feeling concern for me over very contentious issues with an employer and a GP. Lets not go challenging our pre-held ideas that this employer and this GP are reputable and professional people!
I am noticing that I am prefering to be on my own quite a lot now. I am also noticing how readily I ease into a state of anxiety when in conversation with other people. For me there is always a feeling of fraudulence about my presence and my dialogue. They, whomever they are, the people with which I am conversing, are unaware of the permanent battle I am fighting in my life, but that doesnt mean it is something they want to hear about, nor is it something that they will readily understand. So I guess you could say that I feel isolated as a person. I am isolated by a psychological condition for which there is no easy cure and I am isolated by the fact that I have to carry it around while pretending it doesnt exist.
Anxiety comes easy when you are basically living the lie that you are ok, every time you are in conversation with other people. So yes Libby, this forum is good for me. as it is for you. It's a place where I can say the things that I have to hide in real life because there are no answers to the questions the subject raises. No solutions.