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I'm glad you allowed yourself to write this Hope. It's really important.

I think there's inner wisdom and when it's time to reach out to a therapist you will. You've done a ton of really important work regulating your nervous system and that will really help make great use of your time when you do see a therapist.

And when you do...you don't need to go into the difficult stuff right away or quickly.

That's a lot of stuff to be sifting through Dollyvee. Just wanted to leave a if that's helpful.

I'm so happy you spoke up as I know there were others listening who needed to hear that.

Very understandable to feel wrecked by this dynamic and loss

Maybe just a short "really dad?" Let him know you see his BS. Then whatever you want to do with that relationship go ahead and do it. My sister uses this phrase a lot...it's not my style but I tend to give people more benefit of the doubt than is deserved..."when people show you who they are the first time, believe them"

Oh wow geez that's even worse...you've been no contact for NINE YEARS from her and he sent that? I think I was maybe assuming it was still a pretty new concept to him. Goodness. That is an ungodly amount of denial and gaslighting from him in that case. Geez. And gross...with the situation with his current wife you definitely wouldn't want to make my sarcastic quip about a new mom.

    

 

I'm a sacracstic *** so I'd probably write back "what mom? You mean the one who we talked about being abusive? Nope, not celebrating with that one. Got another mom for me I should know about?"

Or softer: "Dad we talked about my relationship with mom and how harmful it was, remember? Mothers Day is pretty difficult for me and causes a lot of grief and it really hurts that you would ignore that. I wish I had a mom that I could spend the day celebrating with, but I don't. It would help if you would acknowledge the difficult truth here."

I'm sorry he sent that. He is either guilt tripping you or really wants to pretend everything is fine.

Knowing out histories helps so much.

 

You aren't crazy. Badly badly injured. I'm sorry.

 

Oh my word that sounds horrid!

 

Oh NK. The hospital can be such a dreadful place but also thank goodness for the care. I cannot believe how sick you got. I can't imagine how anxious you are to be able to go home and get out of there. And how anxious you might be to be able to build back strength and be able to workout again once you can you know...just breathe and walk. Hey...I'm trying to maintain some motivation to exercise. Ugh I hate it. I can only manage 5 minutes at a time for typically 15 minutes total, sometimes 30 if I'm being really really good. Thats from just not liking it, not losing stamina. I mean mental stamina yes I am losing mental stamina. Physical stamina is not the issue yet. Can you send me your excess motivation while you aren't using it? Pllleeeaaase? I won't use it all and when you are ready I'll give it all back. Promise.

Oh hey speaking of being annoying (me, being annoying)...give your horrid roommate a wicked proper American dragon-faced eyeroll for me.

Wishing you great health soon NK. You've been through a lot.

Very good to speak up for yourself.