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I have written pages listing my accomplishments and positive attributes, but the darned things don't seem to stick. My brain automagically focuses on the things I haven't done, am not doing, cannot seem to achieve. Does anyone know of any strategies to maintain the positive reinforcement of knowing what we've achieved or can realistically achieve?

[Relational Psychotherapist]

I have seen so many different kinds of therapist over the years that I couldn't describe all their modalities. I saw my first therapist at the age of 8; my mother's friend, who was a gestalt therapist that traumatized me by not listening to what I was honestly saying.

Over the past year and a half I've been seeing a Relational Psychotherapist here in Toronto. This is the first time I've been able to really dig deep into my relationship with my mother and family, my experience of being severely bullied and ostracized from the ages of 6 to 17, and felt HEARD. I have suffered my whole life with debilitating CPTSD, and discovered what it was only two years ago. Slow but steady progress is finally happening.

I wish you good luck in your journey to find someone!

Thank you so much for posting this. It's a pretty accurate description of my NPD mother.

I got 108, so I'm still being influenced pretty heavily by my mother. Ironically, though she clearly has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, she's got her doctorate in psychology... and has no idea what a narcissist she is, or what effect she's had on my upbringing. The questions were really validating, as others have said.

What to do with this information.... ?