Quote from: Jazzy on May 08, 2021, 01:59:18 PM@jazzy
Preface: I don't struggle with over-eating; I actually have the opposite problem. However, I've been thinking about it a lot recently based on what the people in my life have told me, and some things that have been posted on this forum. So, I wanted to share my thoughts in hopes that it helps someone. If I'm totally off the mark, then I apologize.
As a lot of people know, learning about nutrition and healthy eating choices is often not enough to enable us to manage our weight as we would like. Of course, we need to apply that knowledge to see the changes we are looking for. Applying that knowledge is difficult to do, even in the best situation. Trauma really interferes with the way our mind works, and is certainly not the best situation, making it even harder, perhaps impossible, for us to apply that knowledge on a consistent basis.
I've been trying to find a way to overcome that difficulty, and something Kizzie said really stood out to me. Kizzie said that over eating is a way of comforting ourselves, and that in order to stop over eating, we need to find a different way to fulfill that need for comfort.
I think that need for comfort is really important, and a good, healthy function of the mind. It's a form of self-care. People suffering from trauma really need to be comforted. So, we shouldn't disregard it, but we should find more, alternative ways to fulfill it. That's pretty difficult to do too, and I think it may be unique to all of us. This led me to the thought: "overeating is a dysregulated form of self comfort" ... and, as far as I know dysregulated self comfort is a complex term for the word addiction.
Now, addiction is something I have struggled with. I can really relate and speak from experience on that topic. In my experience, society has an extremely poor understanding of what addiction really is, and as a result fails to handle it well. Please be careful if you look in to addiction treatment, I found a lot of it to be more harmful than helpful.
However, I found this video, which Kizzie linked a while ago, to be extremely helpful. By making changes in my life, based on the information of this video, I've been able to break all of the addictions that I struggled with for so long.
Click Here for the video (YouTube).
So, hopefully this is helpful for someone! I'd love to hear what everyone else thinks on this topic.
I very recently figured out that I have an eating disorder along with orthorexia. Self diagnosed.
I now understand that I have had an unhealthy relationship with food all my life.
I used to steal and hide food and steal.money and eat chocolates and sweets and everything else till I felt sick.
Shame has played a big part along with CSA.
I kind of agree with food being for comfort. I haven't yet figured out what to replace it with.
But with slowly practicing self compassion it's a bit for understandable albeit still not under control.
My father was addicted to drugs and alcohol and barbiturates all his life.
Food being different than narcotics I really struggle with binging.
I will certainly watch the video. Dr. Mate's videos have been helpful in understanding my own toxic behaviour patterns.
I hope I am able to understand and develop a better relationship with food.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and the video.
I continue to learn a lot from everyone here.
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