We're at Part 6 - proof positive we do heal :yes: :thumbup:
Let us know what three good things happened in your life today.
Mine today:
1. I had a wonderful nurse (my H) to help me get thru the stomach flu/food poisoning I just had.
2. I found a good GP and now have a referral to see a psychotherapist in our new location.
3. Our son is coming home for Easter (normally only see him in the summer & at XMas).
I cannot believe that this has a part 6 :hug: When I started the original thread I thought it would die so quickly. I guess here are my three things today, I needed to be reminded of some positivity.
1) I had a great friend check in on me and just listen to what I needed
2) I had a delicious cup of coffee at this cute little cafe
3) I got to walk outside in the sunshine
No, Elpha, it is an absolutely wonderful tool! :hug:
1) I eventually got up and got going and once I did, I felt better.
2) I did a small job today for which I earned €20 - no preparation work and not especially difficult. I was asked if I'd like to do it again next year too.
3) I did some tidying and washed the dishes and even added some of my notes on a trauma conference here, which means I can now throw out my notes-on-paper which is a tidying act. :)
1) I saw someone I haven't seen in a month and had missed.
2) Received an encouraging card from a friend.
3) Ten hour work day, but it went well and I am now home in my pajamas.
Thanks Blueberry! I am so glad it is.
1) I got to dress in one of my favorite cardigans
2) We got to eat M&Ms as part of an activity in my research method class
3) I finished emails I had been putting off
1. I faced my N-boss that I usually feel anxiety around, and spoke out in a staff meeting when he asked us a question.
2. I enjoyed my music class without anxiety.
3. I tried on shoes, but didn't buy any! :cheer:
1) Did some cleaning in my basement.
2) Went for a walk.
3) Made soup for dinner.
1) Message at church was encouraging.
2) Read a helpful article about sleep and trauma.
3) Went for a walk with a friend.
1) My first post in Part 6 :cheer:
2) I felt so much love this morning, tears overflowed. It hurt, but the tears weren't tears of sadness, just tears. I feel so tender, vulnerable, yet connected.
3) I worked. :cheer:
4) It's the end of a certain amount of uncertainty. I can now switch off the news and bring all my concentration back into my own life.
1) I can feel solidarity in society even as people are having to distance themselves physically
2) The sun was shining and it's warm, really warm for mid March :sunny: :sunny:
3) I was moved and also felt encouraged and calmed by a missive from one of the big churches here, sent by email via my choir director
1) First day the laundry can go outside to get sun kissed.
2) "Connect to pleasure" says the dance teacher, and something resonates.
3) Dance, work, love, love, work, dance, camaraderie - what a beautiful day.
1) I met with my fellow traveler today. It was sublime. I felt so moved, so touched. I want the feeling to last forever.
2) I was someone's hero today. I felt proud of myself.
3) Students remembered and valued the lesson I taught on the virus. I planned that lesson following my intuition, worried that it might fall flat. I feel seen when my intuition is validated.
1) Was upset with someone about something person said. Talked to the person and misunderstanding was cleared up.
2) Had been out of touch with a close friend for a couple of years. We connected by phone today and had a beautiful heart to heart conversation.
3) Went for a short walk.
4) Finished sewing covers for cushions. Not perfect, but accepting good enough.
1) Coming here to write my Good Things before I respond to anybody else's post, even ones on my Journal i.e. I'm putting my needs first :cheer:
2) A professional handyman came by to install a sheet of second-hand Plexiglas in my office so I can re-open to business in person and he charged next-to-nothing for it. I even offered him more but he wouldn't take it. This is an especially pleasant surprise considering the nonsense and excuse-making and down-right lying that was going on in my building again this week e.g. from the other business. Some people actually are kind, helpful, thoughtful and not trying to gouge as much as possible out of me while not giving much at all.
3) I've come unstuck this evening and am able to move forwards again. :thumbup: :)
1. I have a warm thing to snuggle around my neck.
2. The washing is on the line drying.
3. I found the TV remote, it wasnt thrown out in the rubbish by mistake.
3 things, it took a while but I've got there.
Quote from: OceanStar on May 01, 2020, 10:01:20 AM
3 things, it took a while but I've got there.
:cheer: for persevering and seeing three good things in your day.
Thank you not alone.
Alas... number 2, it rained...
A new number 2:
A friend stopped by to say 'hi'.
1) Nice day and I went for a walk.
2) Validating and encouraging phone conversation with a friend who lives far away.
3) Repair men came early this morning. Now I don't need to be concerned with it interfering with skype therapy session this afternoon.
1. I went for a walk. I didn't want to but I knew it would be good for me and I did it.
2. Dinner, it tasted good.
3. The washing has been done. Washed, dried and put away.
1) I did my Skype teaching this evening, though I didn't want to
2) I had a good therapy session yesterday
3) I had to take one of the Little Furries to the vet's on Wednesday and the vet didn't charge anything
4) I made myself go to the pharmacy today to pick up a prescription as well as order something that may help Little Furry
5) Yesterday I made myself clean out Little Furries and once I got going it wasn't so bad. I found myself smoothing out the cloths they sit on so there were no wrinkles, something I never bother about when making my own bed.
My COVID-19 test came back negative. ;D
I can legally go out for walks, bike rides & drives again. :yahoo:
It's a beautiful, warm(ish) sunny day today - finally :sunny:
Quote from: Kizzie on May 16, 2020, 03:21:45 PM
My COVID-19 test came back negative. ;D
I can legally go out for walks, bike rides & drives again. :yahoo:
It's a beautiful, warm(ish) sunny day today - finally :sunny:
:cheer: :cheer: :cheer: So glad to hear that good news.
Quote from: Kizzie on May 16, 2020, 03:21:45 PM
My COVID-19 test came back negative. ;D
:cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
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1) I phoned a friend today, one with cptsd as well, and we each managed to help the other. We each managed to see what the other couldn't about her own position and how haranguing the self wasn't being useful.
2) After the phone call, I got on with various jobs e.g. I washed a load of dishes, put the washing machine on and then hung the washing out.
3) I also started sorting through Little Furry cloths and vacuuming them before they go in the wash. When I got tired of that, I allowed myself to stop, I didn't push myself to continue.
4) I realise that I have accomplished an awful lot in the past 4 weeks so no wonder I've dropped back a bit in other ways (e.g. self-care and cleaning) but otoh I have re-started :thumbup:
1 Therapy today, I managed to speak and say something I've been holding back for a while. It was so painful but I said it, and it's now out in the open.
2. Sultanas.
3. An unexpected text from a friend.
1. Paint
2. Picnic tea
3.
Only two, my world is tainted with a dark stain I can't see past right now.
OceanStar, two is a lot better than none!
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1. A friend brought me some food for Little Furries.
2. Seeing this friend's lovely flower garden - always a delight.
3. Eventually setting this friend a limit nonetheless so I could return to doing more things.
4. Riding my bike in the warm evening.
5. I taught a good lesson today and I have a new potential student.
6. Talking to my Little Furries
1 soft toys
2 moisturiser
3 sunshine
1. I did some EFT today when I really needed it
2. I did a further therapy exercise that I also felt a need to. It's an exercise I can't do very well yet, so that was a further hurdle therefore :cheer:
3. I did 2 short spells of light garden work as a break from professional work.
4. Both yesterday and today I have done almost all things on my Highly Recommended and Could lists.
1. I slept through the night (only woke to a bad dream, and not even a nightmare once); yay!
2. I was able to listen to music for the first time in a week.
3. My brother asked me to spend some time playing games with him this evening.
1. Indian food
2. Den building
3. The off button on the TV and my phone. Much need.
1. Had a tour around a private garden yesterday with lots of interesting information on flowers, plants, bees, herbs etc
2. The gardener gave me a plant for my garden - it will get bigger and flower prettily. He also gave me a piece of honeycomb from his bees.
3. Today I'm feeling better than I was after teaching a round of one-on-one
1. I managed to send some homework I had written.
2. I did a little gardening.
3. I picked a big basketful of grass etc. for my little furries.
Thank you for this thread. I needed reminding of good things today.
1 Anger, I felt it and I know why. It was painful to endure but I survived it.
2 Mud pudding
3 My slow cooker
1. Teaching my students was good for me.
2. Noticing how far both of them have come was satisfying too.
3. My therapy session was useful today.
4. I had enough motivation and wherewithal to pick more grass etc. for my pets
5. I'm reading less on here and responding less to others' threads, which means I have more time and energy for me!
1 Water bottles are empty because they've been drunk.
2 A new tube of toothpaste.
3 Church was encouraging.
4 A picture drawn just for me.
5 There are leftovers in the fridge for tomorrow.
6 I've made a decision.
7 People stopped by to say 'Hi'.
Wow! I didn't realise today had so many good things, it didn't feel like it at the time. I'm glad I did this today. It has given me some perspective.
1) Reading on here is good for me because it shows me that just 4 days ago I was doing OK. It feels like an eternity that I haven't been doing OK, but that feeling is wrong.
2) I got an invitation to play board games - I can't go but it's nice the other person thought of me
3) There are lots of big buds and some blooms on my roses
1 I played mousetrap, it was fun.
2 Warm PJ's
3 My kitchen is tidy.
1: Walked three hours with little one in the carrier. We walked through gardens and to the beach. (That could count as three separate good things)
2: I felt more present, not in the social media catch phrase way, but in the brain is not floating out of my body sort of way.
3: I remembered to drink water, twice! I'm not a cactus after all.
1 I laughed
2 Jam sandwiches
3 Cuddles with little animals
11pm sunset,
seagulls awaking,
sandal strap tan.
1 Church was encouraging. Clear and helpful teaching.
2 New trainers.
3 I created a space.
1 Our nearby park
2 More cuddles with little animals
3 A painful cut on my finger seems finally to be healing after about two weeks.
Three or More Good Things in past 24 hours
1) I woke up at 4 am and got up at 5
2) It's sunny and I've already done a few cleaning and tidying jobs, as well as a little in the garden
3) I sat and talked to and fed my guinea pigs
4) Yesterday I was up at the farm for the first time since (semi-)lockdown. I was doing some work outside in the potato patch, so I could distance. It was nice to be there again and then walk through the woods to the bus stop to go home again.
5) While working in the potato patch - removing potato beetles and their larvae - my ICr. was pretty quiet. None of that old: "you're working too slow" :blahblahblah: :blahblahblah: :blahblahblah: I also stopped when I noticed I was getting tired and picked some grass etc for my guineas while the other person finished her work.
6) This is teh Good Things thread so I won't list any more of how my I used to work in the vegetable patch - suffice to say my thoughts and self-care all much better in ways I never knew they could be!
So busy that I can't think.
Having help around.
Washing machines and dishwashers, they really don't get the credit they deserve.
Blue skies
Happy dogs
Friends that care
:thumbup: 3R
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I finally had a bath and hairwash
Being allowed to use a friend's bathtub when she is out at work
My pet starting eating again (he wasn't doing much of that Sun evening) so I didn't have to take him to the vet's after all
1 I've woken up.
2 I've eaten breakfast
3 Comfortable clothes.
... in the past 24 hours
1) I got up this morning at day-break and did some replanting in the garden before the rain.
2) I gave one of my pets her pain medication
3) I did a little EFT
4) I boiled up my soup bones again yesterday evening and had some nutritious soup.
5) I did eventually accept the 'present' of some berries from a neighbour's mother but I did not allow the mother to pressure me into doing what she wanted
6) I went for a little cycle yesterday evening
Weekend was over. To me, that's good.
I left the house.
I hid my disregulation.
1) I got up
2) I taught my second lesson well, despite not having prepared for it. (First lesson taught well too, but I prepared for it.)
3) I found my appointments' diary again.
1. Had a great Zoom meeting.
2. Laughed HARD on the phone with a friend.
3. Took a nap.
Three Rose's I'm so glad you laughed.
1. Clear blood and scan result.
2. Sitting in a lovely garden.
3. Evening treats to look forward too.
1 I played a game and enjoyed it.
2 Sausages, yum
3 My SO.
1) I went for a paddle in the stream on my street
2) I feel cooler on account of the paddle
3) I did some cleaning and tidying up, chiefly of floors
4) I've done some laundry too and hung it up in the garden
5) I went barefoot into the garden
6) I told a neighbour's mother what I think of her gifts-with-requests and reiterated the physical boundaries of my part of the garden and my items in garden, all without blowing a fuse or even raising my voice. Though I did point out she seems very 'forgetful'
7) I looked at my flowers blooming in the garden (those that are surviving the heat wave that is)
1) Got a lot of housework done today including 3 loads of laundry
2) It's still summer but it cooled off a bit today which is a relief
3) In the early evening sun I sat in the garden with my feet up and eyes closed simply relaxing. In addition simply enjoying: the warmth, sound of the wind in the trees, feel of the now gentler sun on me, nothing to do, nothing to accomplish - simply being.
4) I also enjoyed sitting there eyes open looking up into the crown of a tree
1. Help daughter w/wedding plans - optimism and the beauty of youth
2. Free time w/my sweet husband - giving and receiving love in a healthy way
3. Finished my taxes - such relief!
1. A kind gentle friend who does care.
2. I managed to clear two rooms before I slept.
3. A few beautiful memories.
4. Mini Rolos.
1 Happy sounds in my house
2 Soft toys
3 A day with no plans
1) Got a lot of jobs done around town and in my apartment, garden, and even office
2) The weather was nice and warm
3) I got to pick mirabelle plums in someone's garden and came away with apples and pears as well
1. I ate today and didn't feel guilty about it!
2. I went to the grocery store and didn't feel very anxious.
3. I did laundry!
1. SO cooked dinner and it was lovely.
2. I stood my ground after making a decision even tho someone else was saying the opposite.
3. I did some housework without feeling as if I was slipping into an EF.
4. I was able to drive someone home when they needed it.
5. I realise I am relaxing a little. I am counting that a good thing although as I realised I then panicked a little.
1. Beautiful weather.
2. I'd prepared dinner in the morning so I could enjoy being outside this afternoon.
3. I am breathing deeply and I can feel my body, it feels uncomfortable, but I can feel it.
4. My T sent me a message and I was reassured by it.
1. I'm up, dressed and trying to engage with the world.
2. Washing on the line.
3. I can make my own decisions.
4. Today is bin day.
Oceanstar, I laughed when I saw you had written bin day as one of your good things - it's my H's favourite day of the week so I make sure to tell him that I have put them out while he's recovering from his stroke. Seems to make his day ;D
1. Finally convinced doctors H's meds were causing him to go all wonky if they didn't give them to him laying down. Yesterday they did so and he didn't have another episode of what's called syncope (like a seizure/passing out due to blood pressure dropping to much and too quickly).
2. Spoke to docs, nurses, all therapists, social worker and the Personal Care Supervisor about health and safety issues my H had since being transferred to the rehab facility and feel heard and have seen action taken. Much better yesterday thankfully.
3. My H's COVID test finally came back and it was negative so don't have to don full PPE anymore around him (so hot, don't know how frontline HCWs do it!), just a mask.
Sounds great about your H and that you have been heard, Kizzie! :cheer:
I like the night before bin day! Which is when our bins have to go out. It's a kind of satisfying feeling putting bins and/or sacks out. We have different types on different days.
Who knew so many people like bin day! ;D
1) I feel I did well in past 24 hours looking after my pets and even rearranging things to be more interesting for them despite my EF
2) Turning to old trauma-healing books of mine for information and help that I know is in them
3) Come back out of my EF
Over the past 24 hours in addition to what I wrote on my Journal,
1) Last night I had the wherewithal to make great strides on cleaning out my pet 'landscape' (the age of small or even large cages is over, much to the benefit of the type of pet in question) and setting it up in a slightly different way with the addition of a very nice big comfy cushion which is due for the bin anyway. My pets love big comfy cushions but they're not housetrained so this can't be a regular feature. However atm it is ;D
2) so last night I had the joy of watching my pets exploring the new landscape and positively loving that cushion :party:
3) today right after getting up, I had the wherewithal to go and sit next to them and talk to them about how wonderful life is (that new landscape) and how good etc etc they are. They love when I do that, especially the male, he gets all excited ;) Fortunately he's neutered. (Hope that doesn't trigger anyone. He's very innocent and doesn't do anything to his females, but I know what's going on ;) ).
4) it's sunny despite forecast of rain and I've already been in the garden picking some grass for my pets
and 5) looking at my flowers still blooming away - yellow and purple and 4 new rose buds, one almost open - the colour is showing already. And it's not even noon yet, so time for more Good Things Today. :)