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My mother and I have always talked about current events. This goes waaay back to when I was a very young child being indoctrinated into questioning the establishment. I spent the first three years of my life on a hippy commune. We've kept it up even through her conversion to pentecostal christianity. That conversion was the source of much of the trauma I've endured. She didn't get around to that until I was well into adolescence, so my worldview was already formed. Yet we still were able to have discussion, albeit somewhat heated at times.
Last week I asked her what her take on the meeting with Israel was--being that she is a diehard christian. Her response was: lol, they should stop having press conferences, no one cares but the press. I responded that I cared and a laundry list of the ways in which I am engaged. I thought it was civil enough; it certainly wasn't a personal attack. No response. Dialog over. I'm thinking this should be a signal to me to disengage. BUT. But my birthday is coming up this week and I know I will get a gift. I will have to thank her, and I really don't want the gift or the obligation to thank.
I guess I'm struggling to figure out at what point is this relationship done. I've told her I was diagnosed and she minimized that to one issue. I lashed out with a tirade listing all of the abuses. I was pretty nasty. I then apologized and we actually had a nice back and forth about my childhood and I felt like she owned it. As I've typed that I realize how pathological that sounds. Ugh. 

"I just feel so horrible about the world. People are cruel and ignorant and it's horrible.
It does trigger me when people are horrible and nasty about anything that betters vulnerable peoples lives, whether that's to combat racism, or make lives easier for the disabled or whatever else."

OMG, I'm right there with you. I am feeling so horrible lately, as simply waking up and facing the world is triggering every day, every hour, every minute. The people who are being so flip about all of this are making me sooo angry. I have been checking my all or nothing thinking almost constantly, because I feel like if you are not seeing this you must be a callous monster. Intellectually I know this is not (100%) true, but I feel like so much is at stake right now.
We probably just have to get used to the overuse and lack of understanding behind the very word. It is really inconvenient for me since I've only begun my recovery and must use the word--legitimately--all of the time.
Facebook is a minefield, but there are kindred spirits there. I have to deactivate my account from time to time. I was deactivated for 17 days until yesterday. So far it's okay, but I'm not falling down the hole--yet. I agree with Fen, this is the place to come for a safer experience.

I really wish I could not pay attention, but I find that impossible. I am too outraged. I feel like sitting idly by while so much that I care about is threatened will not serve me well. I've tried. It never works for me, probably because I had to do just that when I was a child. I know it is tough to talk about, being that we are not all in agreement, but yes I am feeling more anxiety, more anger and more sadness due to the current climate. I get very angry at those who are able to tune out, but it is misdirected anger. If you are able to tune out, you are practicing self-care on some level, and you can't be faulted for that.

I too get both. Just this morning, on this forum, did I figure out that I was having emotional flashbacks, when I thought I was having inappropriate episodes of rage. The rage is out of proportion to whatever sets me off, but once it gains traction I have symptoms that are like a panic attack: depersonalization, hyperventilation, palpitations, lack of thermoregulation, feeling of going insane, etc. I think the difference is that the panic attack by itself passes quicker and isn't as intense. I've only started to have the raging emotional flashbacks since last July, but I had my first panic attack when I was 10. (I'm 48 now.) The rage has totally baffled me, because I haven't behaved that way since I was a child. I have described it as feeling like possessed by a demon or wanting to skin myself alive so I could get out of my body. Really scary.
Anyway, I hope you continue to read about C-PTSD, because this is certainly a situation where knowledge is power. One of the moderators shared this article with me: https://www.psychotherapy.net/article/complex-ptsd#section-emotional-neglect:-a-primary-cause-of-complex-ptsd?

Breakthrough!!!
Yes these rage episodes are emotional flashbacks. What a relief to have a clue to what is happening.
The rage has made me feel like I wanted to skin myself alive to get out of my body. I am a calm, kind person when I am functioning normally, so these episodes were so alien to how I usually behave.
Thank you WeFallToRiseAgain, Boatsetsailrose, and Three Roses for your input and info. 

Wow.
I've been wondering how I got to my late forties only to fall apart. I really feel like being diagnosed made me crumble. I was diagnosed last July. I have had a couple (5) of really terrifying rage episodes where I felt like I was possessed by a demon. I am an agnostic, so that feeling doesn't fit. I had never thought of self-abandonment, but that resonates with me.
I'm going to think about that--a lot. I feel like maybe that is what I did too.
Thank you for sharing and I hope your day (or night) is good--whatever that means for us broken people.