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#1
Our Relationships with Others / Getting HRO
March 26, 2024, 11:42:05 AM
My ex (7 years post divorce) still taunts and abuses using the OFW app (co parenting), and verbally assaults every time there is a pick up and drop off. He makes life so miserable on the daily, and now I am experiencing physical effects of all the stress, the name calling, the insulting, making fun of me, laughing at me, calling me white trash, and now states that I drank and smoke during my pregnancy with my special needs son - this is new. I honestly cannot take it anymore so I called the local police and am filing a restraining order as soon as I print out the years of emails, texts, and highlight them. I did find out that even though we use the OFW app already, if things are granted and he violates the HRO, there may be jail time for him.
Our kids are so damaged, really hurt after all of these years of this. I survived childhood PTSD but this is so much worse than what I ever had to deal with. He uses it against me and even though I pay his alimony and we have 50/50 custody, I pay his health and dental insurance, and a couple hundred dollars in child support, gave him my house - all just to get away from him, he still stalks, still harasses, I honestly pray the judge grants this order. Just venting out loud to people who may understand what it is like to coparent with a malignant narcissist.
#2
Hi All, I'm here (52F), newly diagnosed but knowing this was my issue. Feeling bummed because I thought I had beat my childhood PTSD with years of therapy nearly 30 years ago, but really never developed great coping habits ended up with a Narcissistic immigrant husband who took everything I had worked for in my life after 15 years of draining me financially.

Feeling like such a freaking wimp.

I sit here and work two jobs, raise my three boys alone, pay his lazy A alimony and child support because he got it in the divorce, meanwhile I still do everything in half the time. Probably heading down a spiral soon, so I am happy to have a diagnosis and a new therapist to try to navigate everything.

Parents are both sick and in chemo, two kiddos have autism and one severely that will need to be in a group home soon.

I am a spiritual person so I wonder how in the actual F I created this nightmare of a life, and wonder how all of this is going to end up? Honestly, I would love to just move to a small town and stay in my house alone for the rest of my life and never interact with another human again.

Except that I am a musician so I have to venture out to play for an audience here and there.

Ugh, now this diagnosis. Is there any way to get through this fing life without any more goddamn trauma? Can I sue my ex for CPTSD? I am seriously thinking of it.

Steps forward, I am changing my last name because I didn't do it in the divorce 7 years ago. He still terrorizes us. This trauma keeps following us.