thank you both of you for your replies
@wife#2 I think you are right that it is intimate information and that it could do a lot of harm in the wrong hands, especially someone you've just met. I think for me it leads back to a habit of self-sabotaging: better to say everything at once and get rejected than get rejected after 6 months, which obvs is something I need to unlearn. And yes, also use my knowledge to very carefully screen the other person to see if they are personality disordered or in other ways fit old patterns of abuse, before too much myself is shared.
@contessa yes I think that's a good way to put it - they have to win trust one card at a time, not just be given the whole deck on the first meeting. About substituting with another illness/disorder i think that from the perspective of someone wholesome they might even be impressed by the amount of work I (we) have done to understand the condition and to heal. Best aquarius
@wife#2 I think you are right that it is intimate information and that it could do a lot of harm in the wrong hands, especially someone you've just met. I think for me it leads back to a habit of self-sabotaging: better to say everything at once and get rejected than get rejected after 6 months, which obvs is something I need to unlearn. And yes, also use my knowledge to very carefully screen the other person to see if they are personality disordered or in other ways fit old patterns of abuse, before too much myself is shared.
@contessa yes I think that's a good way to put it - they have to win trust one card at a time, not just be given the whole deck on the first meeting. About substituting with another illness/disorder i think that from the perspective of someone wholesome they might even be impressed by the amount of work I (we) have done to understand the condition and to heal. Best aquarius