Mods, if this need moved, I'm okay with that. Not sure where this goes.
Over the past month I been hereing on the radio, adds for this or that organization, pushing to get men to sign a pledge to end dv at home. After hearing that for 20-30 times, it dawned on me....I didnt' hear one single add pushing women to pledge same, leading up to Mother's day.
I wanted to go to their website and tell them off. But thinking of that triggered me...so....never even went to website becasue I agree with that, we do need to end dv at home. But from both parents, not just dads only.
Also before Mother's day, my pastor made a small reference to #metoo...in that men need to stop abusing women and children. Not people, once again, just only men. Fully 1/3 of my abusers are female. And my 2 longest duration cycles of abuse... were females. The longest being 21 years, my future ex-wife. Then mom comes in at #2 with nearly 19 years.
Not pointing fingers, just saying that males aren't the only ones. But society puts us in a bad light. ON tv, more often than not, we're portrayed as bumbling idiot helpless dads. Just becuase some of us are, isn't good enough. Regular everyman dad...is rarely seen or heard of, in the media. Even in real life...who's the one always getting blamed or treated like a suspicious character? Men.
Maybe I got it all wrong...I frequently do, becuause of my extensive trauma background. I am often confused, or totally unaware of what's really going on. I know I see things differently. So most often I stay to the edges of group discussions, or out of them all together.
Maybe should have just kept mouth shut about this. Sorry. Mods can delete if this all wrong.
Over the past month I been hereing on the radio, adds for this or that organization, pushing to get men to sign a pledge to end dv at home. After hearing that for 20-30 times, it dawned on me....I didnt' hear one single add pushing women to pledge same, leading up to Mother's day.
I wanted to go to their website and tell them off. But thinking of that triggered me...so....never even went to website becasue I agree with that, we do need to end dv at home. But from both parents, not just dads only.
Also before Mother's day, my pastor made a small reference to #metoo...in that men need to stop abusing women and children. Not people, once again, just only men. Fully 1/3 of my abusers are female. And my 2 longest duration cycles of abuse... were females. The longest being 21 years, my future ex-wife. Then mom comes in at #2 with nearly 19 years.
Not pointing fingers, just saying that males aren't the only ones. But society puts us in a bad light. ON tv, more often than not, we're portrayed as bumbling idiot helpless dads. Just becuase some of us are, isn't good enough. Regular everyman dad...is rarely seen or heard of, in the media. Even in real life...who's the one always getting blamed or treated like a suspicious character? Men.
Maybe I got it all wrong...I frequently do, becuause of my extensive trauma background. I am often confused, or totally unaware of what's really going on. I know I see things differently. So most often I stay to the edges of group discussions, or out of them all together.
Maybe should have just kept mouth shut about this. Sorry. Mods can delete if this all wrong.