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Having had two very unstable parents I would strongly suggest more therapy no matter what.

If it's unsettling for the children its likly for two reasons 1) the situation is to hectic and they want you to go away  2) they care about you  , maybe a mixture of both.

I don't know the whole story but it is something to discuss with a T. As ether desision is potentially harmful, for all parties. Maybe a relationship councillor could help.

Good luck 🍀 anyway.

Hi
I found a physical job helps. If I'm doing office work I make shore I walk on my break. Yoga is good for this.

When I wake up in the middle of the night. I find that getting up for at least half an hour. Drinking a hot drink and finding a distraction (tv, magazine, etc) helps. Clearing your mind before you sleep again.

Interesting to here about the melatonin, I think I need to look it up.

Gently pushing the boundaries. Doing something slightly crazy. Trying something new.

You don't want to go over the top because it could do more harm than good.

For example (this is not a suggestion, you need to decide what a slight shock would be for you) - so you go travelling, but this time you take the person that you are having a Physical thing' with or another acquaintance. Its a risk , for obvious reasons, it also needs thought, could be to much of a risk for you. But its out of your comfort zone , slight change from the norm, enough to make you tick. To scare you just a little, but also be safe. A challenge. The key is to define rules and boundaries, to keep you safe.

This is just my method though. I don't know if it is healthy or not . I don't know your history so it may not be good for you.

Really interesting thankyou 

I felt numb for a bit. I understand what it is like to have an alchy father (but obviously not your exact situation). For me I felt like a lot of my life was sucked from me and many opportunities lost.

I found that a small shock helped. I really enjoy travelling. So going places on a small budget really helped (i am always skint, lol). I also missed out on my late education. So I attended an evening class. It was a bit stressful. And I work a low skilled job, so it can be financially hard as well.

Don't know if it is helpful.

That's really hard work. Must have taken a lot of strength

I don't believe that this is the best way forward. But its how I did it.

I cried and had panic attacks at work, then covered them up the best I could. This allowed me to pay for therapy. My panic attacks and awkwardness slowly died.

I still have iffy days and panic attacks at work. But they are less. And not noticeable.


One thing that I became aware of during this time is - who is using my resources? Its hard to spot or belive that some people are toxic, but if you are getting drained, you won't have the energy to do what you need to (ie work and gain new skills). And that I need to top my resources up - ie becoming a hermit for a bit- I like to strech myself so I don't always take my own advice, and then I am tired and down for a bit. People notice.

As for skills google it, practice it. Put that you are confident in these skills on your cv. Skills also cross over. There are ways of writing a cv which shows that.

Depending upon lots of different things (mainly atmosphere) yoga can realise a lot of built up emotion. I don't want to put you off, as its excellent therapy, but I don't want you too be shocked if you feel like crying during yoga. And then never return. A friend of mine no depression of any kind cried during her first yoga session. I have cried during yoga sessions. I've also seen people well up.

Putting a bit of lavender or rosemary oil on your rist works a treat if you are worried about expressing your self in front of others. Just give it a sniff when you feel like welling up, plus oils go with yoga vibe lol.

Also schedule a bit of space after.

Hay good luck with working.
Like a previous reply I've always had to work. I have been in some horrible states at work trying desperately to hide tiers and panic attacks. This has helped me out in the long run. It has helped me control my emotions and in turn helped me have more control over my life.
Work has also been a haven for me. When I split with an ex people were so supportive. Bringing me coffee etc.
Maybe its worth looking at your options. Maybe working with people isn't for you. Which is a pain as its hard to find single work. Book keeping is apparently well paid and can be done from home.

Thankyou 

Thankyou for the reply's

I am really grateful for both and the fact that you put such effort in to reply is lovely

You are not alone, thoughts are general symptoms, and common accuracies, they are horrible, but you are not alone. 

I don't know if this is the write place to put this.

I am not ready to date due to recent events. However looking through this board has made me question, how people have managed to date with CPTSD ?

How do people trust?

How do people deal with putting themselfs out there?

How have people delt with triggers that come along?

etc

hi
also in England, I would pester doctors more. its likly you will not get an NHS councillor , they dont like spending money on mental health. you can ask the doctor to put you in touch with mind or another mental health organisation. I ended up paying for a privet theripist (and then lol, they offered me theripy). I googled it and found a list of concilors. then e-mailed the one I liked.

http://mind.org.uk/get-involved/giving-to-mind/text-giving-three/?gclid=CKziy6C2w9MCFVMo0wodKP0Faw

It's horrable, but I found that I have had to go it alone. However in going it alone I found out that I did have support from unexpected places. Thoughs people actuly ment more to me then I realised.