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Thanks bruisedbutnotbroken. I don't have a bath unfortunately but a hot shower is close enough so I'll try that.

I haven't read all the recent responses (have a small child being a bit clingy today, i think she's teething) but i just wanted to say a huge thanks to Three Roses for your response regarding boundaries. I can see how writing down my FOO rules and challenging them will be really beneficial as I know one of the biggest ones was "keep quiet in order to keep safe" and so that has lead to me allowing people to walk all over me.

I also wanted to say LanaBanana that i 100% relate to not letting people in and them doing it to readily once kindness is shown. For me specifically in romantic relationships. And like others I then freak out and pull away. As for friends I just isolate myself.

Looking into it it looks like I'm a freeze-fawn type too. Interestingly i was in a long term relationship with dv and didn't realise I was being abused for almost 10 years. The co-counselling sounds interesting.

LanaBanana, it took me a couple of years with my current psychologist to feel ready to open up about my childhood abuse. I just knew I want ready before then to work through it. Try not to beat yourself up about it, in my personal experience it takes time to feel ready to open that can if worms and I'm sure you'll get there. Sending you hugs

Good luck with that Sienna. Hope it gets sorted quickly for you.

I'm sick and achey today,  but emotionally feeling in a better place as I've worked through some stuff with the support of my mum and boyfriend.

Alice97, i can relate to that. I thought I was a fraud and that it meant i don't really have C-PTSD as i didn't have flashbacks until a few years ago either.

I had a lot of trouble sleeping last night. I was awake until almost 5am, and had to get up at 6 to get my oldest child to school. It's awful. Due to being sexually abused in my sleep as a child I have so much trouble sleeping at night unless I'm absolutely exhausted, even then some nights it makes no difference. My psychologist explained that it's due to my body going into fight or flight mode.

My psychiatrists solution was to sleep during the day and stay awake at night. That's how I dealt with it before children but it's just not possible with a 2 year old as a single mother. I don't want to take sleeping pills again as I overuse them. I see my psychologist tomorrow so hoping she'll help. I just don't know how to deal with these triggers.

Mine aren't always im of the traumas themselves. Like you they are often of being chased. Sometimes they're of me verbally or physically abusing my own children (something that upsets me greatly just to think of doing such a thing) or losing them somehow. Those that are like the traumas are never exact replays, that happens to me with flashbacks during the day. Anyway hope that helps answer your question.

Welcome LanaBanana

Welcome. I'm new too. I've already found this site so helpful. I hope you do too. I too can relate to growing up in an abusive, neglectful, alcoholic family and seeing that manifest in my relationship with my now ex, father if my kids. I hope, like myself, this group helps you feel less alone

Hi everyone! Thanks for the article Dutch Uncle. I'll be sure to check it out. I eventually fell asleep at 6.30am to be woken just after 9 by my toddler. I'm so tired.

I've been prescribed sleeping pills a few times when I've been badly triggered (temazepam) however as I've had suicide ideation my psychiatrist doesn't like prescribing them too often. Plus they're only a short term fix.

I see my psychologist Wednesday so I'm hoping she can help me deal with triggers. Had an awful nightmare last week and is brought things to the surface, I'm sure many of you can relate.

 

Hi I'm Silverlight. Just thought I'd quickly introduce myself. I'm 33 years old and a single mum with 2 daughters. We live in Queensland, Australia.

For years I was diagnosed with depression, however I always felt there was more to it than that. My psychologist, who I've been seeing now on and off for 5 years, recently told me she believes I have C-PTSD. Tonight I can't sleep (it's currently 5.22am here) and research brought me here.